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worriedforhealth · Mar 12, 2008, 01:37 PM

I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years, we decided to wait for sex, until we both knew we were both ready, today was the day. We are both 26, and both virgins so its not like I'm a young girl messing around.
Basically if was good, I didn't orgasm, but my boyfriend did. It hurt a little when he first went in, but we used lube and it soon sorted it. The thing that's worrying me is after sex.
It now feels really sensitive down there, and when I wee it burns, it all feels a little raw, but there wasn't and still isn't any blood, sorry to go into too much detail bu since we had it I've produced a lot of discharge which is very very very faintly pinkish but I would not class it as heavy bleeding, o even bleeding to be honest, it's that faint its as if it could be my imagination as I'm worried.
Is this sensation normal, surely I won't feel it every time I have sex will I?

worriedforhealth · Mar 12, 2008, 01:38 PM

p.s can I just add, that my boyfriend has since sex been quite keen to talk about it, saying he liked the intimacy and what he enjoyed and stuff, is this normal to talk about the sex after it? Id have thought it would have just been yes that was good, over and done with. So is it normal to have a text conversation about it, and his likes and dislikes etc?

bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE · Mar 12, 2008, 01:46 PM

WOW... here are some medals for you. 26 and waited that long huh? You have my respect. Completely.

It is normal after sex for you'r vagina to be some what sore. You were spotting a little because you'r hymen has broken through. I might be wrong though so please don't quote me!

The first time I had sex it hurt like h*ll but I didn't bleed. Some women do and some don't.

And yes, it is so normal to talk about it afterwards!

ISneezeFunny · Mar 12, 2008, 01:47 PM

As far as your "after-sex" talk... it's normal. It's communicating, and it can be helpful to develop a more fulfilling sexual relationship.

As far as your body, sensitivity after sex is normal and common, and it will become less and less common the more your body gets used to intercourse, however, the burning while peeing + discharge is a bit off. Do you have frequent urges to urinate? If so, you may have an UTI.

Lay off sex for a few days and see if the burning persists. If that's the case, go see a doc.

Also, now that you're sexually active, time to make regular checkups @ the obgyn.

bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE · Mar 12, 2008, 01:48 PM

Once you get into the habit of having sex the burning sensations fades. If it doesn't then I suggest you consult you'r doctor.

topladyj · Mar 12, 2008, 01:56 PM

I agree It will get better. And you will feel sensations you never thought you would feel throughout your body. I think it is very sweet you guys waited. My first was a virgin too and yes we did discuss it cause figured if either of us had questions better to talk about it with the other and explore just really what we can do with our bodies. I give you my RESPECT cause you did wait. I didn't bleed much when I poped my cherry either, unfortunately it was not during sex my first boyfriend was fingering me and I lost it. I got really sore from that. But once we did it a few times after that I wanted it all time. So you two enjoy and Yes Mame it will get a heck of a lot better. Remember practice makes perfect in every situation... lol

Don't forget about the birth control or you to might have little ones! Not trying to scare you!

bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE · Mar 12, 2008, 02:29 PM

Originally Posted by topladyj

I agree It will get better. And you will feel sensations you never thought you would feel thoughout your body. I think it is very sweet you guys waited. My first was a virgin too and yes we did discuss it cause figured if either of us had questions better to talk about it with the other and explore just really what we can do with our bodies. I give you my RESPECT cause you did wait. I didn't bleed much when I poped my cherry either, unfortunatly it was not during sex my first bf was fingering me and I lost it. I got really sore from that. But once we did it a few times after that I wanted it all time. So you two enjoy and Yes Mame it will get a heck of a lot better. Remember practice makes perfect in every situation...lol

Don't forget about the birth control or you to might have little ones! Not trying to scare you!

Lol I liked how you referred to the hymen as a 'cherry.' I was going to say that but thought it would be innapropriate. How long did you wait to have sex and how old?

topladyj · Mar 12, 2008, 02:35 PM

Thanks I wasn't sure If I should have used it either but I couldn't think of the other word lol. I didn't wait long my first boyfriend and I were both virgins and we were together for like a year and started messing around but it was about a year and a half into the relationship when we did. I assume you were asking me that! Wish I would have waited though it would be nice to have saved it for my future husband. I was in my teens, to young to be doing that, for sure.

worriedforhealth · Mar 12, 2008, 02:49 PM

Thanks so much guys, I will inform you the burning sensation has eased off during tonight, it still feels tender though.
At the end of the day I waited due to religious reasons, I've been bought up to believe no sex before marriage, but I'm allowed in a room alone with my boyfriend, my mum has never said I don't want you having sex, and neither has she ever really talked about it, other than saying it's a way to express your love for someone, in which case it was with my boyfriend, we aren't married yet, but I would like to be with him forever, which is why we took our relationship to the next step.
I am on birth control, I went on the pill about 4 months ago when we started discussing sex.
Basically for those who regret losing there virginity early see it this way, "don't regret something which once made you smile!"
Going by my experience today, minus the pain, it sure made me smile. Yes you learn from mistakes, but it happened, so see is as a lesson not a mistake, life is too short to dwell on the past!
Thanks again guys!