Family Relationships after Molestation
My brother in law molested my (then)19 year old daughter... we pressed charges and he was found guilty of sexual battery.My problem is that my family (including my sister) refuse to speak to me or my children. They blame me for "messing up my sister's life", and "causing trouble". I know that I did the right thing, in sticking by my daughter's side. I even went as far as to tell my sister what happened face to face at the time in an effort to minimize her pain.
I have been literally "dumped" by my family. I was really shocked by how they responded, it literally threw me for a loop. I have never tried to cause any sort of trouble or make any sort of wave, I am not someone who likes discord. I find though, that I am in so much pain that I find it hard to cope. I can't afford therapy. I have tried to reach out to them via a letter, explaining how I felt... I have heard through another family member that they sat around the kitchen table and laughed at it. How do I get past this, and how do I find something positive in this situation? My parents are not in the best of health, and I know that time is short.
I have a very loving husband and children.. I want to get past this pain. I would have given my right arm for this not to have happened. I am not mad at my family or my sister... I am just befuddled by their response, and the fact that they basically chose him over me... oh by the way, he admitted what he did, to my sister AND my family. I am just stunned really, and I don't know what to do. I would appreciate any thoughts that you might have. Thank you.
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