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    Jan 17, 2008, 04:03 PM
    Jealousy and Insecurity in relationships.
    Hey dana here
    And I seriously need some advice..
    Every relationship I've had has been plague by jealousy and insecurity. Overall I'm very confident in myself and in my looks.. but when in a relationship insecurity is there.. I've dated my boyfriend for about 1 year and we just broke up and its mostly because our arguing about him not understanding how I feel toward sex on TV and in movies. I really don't know where this part of my personality came about but it got worst as I got older... I'm 21 now and SINGLE once again because of this crappy side of me.. Im the perfect girlfriend but I get weirded out when I'm watching TV or movies and nude scenes come on. Me feeling this way I also feel uncomfortable with my boyfriend watching it so when they do look I feel VERY disrespected.. in my head I think they should only be allowed to look at me.. but I don't tell them that. I really need to change.. because I'm getting older and I will have to settle down one day.. I know I have to fix this problem before starting another relationship so please any advice will help.. thanks a lot!
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    Jan 17, 2008, 04:14 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by dana21
    Im the perfect gf
    No you're not. No one is.

    But regardless of that... what is it about nudity on tv/movies that bothers you so much?

    Also, do you expect your future husband to be a virgin?
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    Jan 17, 2008, 07:41 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by ISneezeFunny
    no you're not. no one is.

    but regardless of that...what is it about nudity on tv/movies that bothers you so much?

    also, do you expect your future husband to be a virgin?


    Well I was saying in my own opinion I was SO called perfect.. off course no one is.. but I use it to say that I've done and gone out my way many times to make a loved 1 happy.

    It just makes me feel uncomfortable.. I think I should have been living in the 50's because most people don't understand where I come from because sex is so common on TV nowadays so everyone thinks its all right..

    I don't think I could find a husband whose a virgin lol but besides that I just want someone to relate to me and I guess talk to me and try to make me understand.. ive never had that with a guy.. I know some guys are more understanding with their girlfriend but others are just selfish.. they want what they want and that's that. I guess that's why I never sought out advice on changing.
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    Jan 18, 2008, 03:26 PM
    I feel the same way about not wanting my boyfriend to watch nude scenes or nude girls. I feel like I am the only girl he should be seeing in the nude. But that's how I feel.
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    Jan 18, 2008, 06:53 PM
    I agree to a degree BUT you have to remember that is TV and you are the real deal.
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    Jan 19, 2008, 12:29 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Krystina1987
    feel like i am the only girl he should be seeing in the nude. but thats how i feel.
    I agree with you very much.I don't want to TELL him what to do... but see that he just understands me.. and respects me and look away.. I guesss I'm more important then that on TV.. n if he makes a fuse about it I would think that what's on TV matters more then I do.
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    Jan 19, 2008, 10:13 AM
    I would feel the same way dana21
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    Jan 19, 2008, 11:36 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Krystina1987
    i feel the same way about not wanting my boyfriend to watch nude scenes or nude girls. i feel like i am the only girl he should be seeing in the nude. but thats how i feel.
    Same here. I want for him to love me and not expect me to look exactly like the models have *** on TV...
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    Jan 20, 2008, 07:13 AM
    Maybe it might help to think that he *chose* to date and love you, instead of all the other nude girls (:
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    Jan 20, 2008, 11:02 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by pyg
    maybe it might help to think that he *chose* to date and love you, instead of all the other nude girls (:
    Ahaha :D so true :p
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    Jan 20, 2008, 01:22 PM
    Lol u never really know what they think in their little heads
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    Oct 5, 2011, 08:21 PM
    Im sorry but in the name of god, grow up! First of all you are too young to have your act together enough to be looking for a husband and secondly the fact that you feel the way you do about such a minor issue is because you are still very very young and not quite as mature as you may think, nothing to feel bad about its just where you are in your development right now. Try to give yourself the right to feel your feelings without over thinking them and accept that you are where you are as you gain a few years and the experiences you have mature you I would imagine the whole issue wopuld resolve itself. YOu are beautiful in your way and the guy your with chose you so enjoy it for what it is it isn't everything its just one aspect of your journey.
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