[Summerloven]

So here's my story.. I met a boy named brandon, we fell in love and it was perfection at its finest. Its weird, when your with someone, you knows its right.. you feel it, you see it, and you live it. We had the perfect love, late nights and laughs. We dated for over a year, we were eachothers first true love, first too meet eacothers parents.. and all those little things you can't wait to do with someone some day.. We had a long distance relationship, it worked.. And we had hard, hard times.. and we lasted.. hes here now and has been all summer and is now.. But this past month... things changed. I don't get what or where.. or even when! We were eachothers night and day. We never went out, all we needed was each other. We had plans for our life.. and soon to be kids.. (well not so soon more like 5/6 years from now) But anyway.. When we had hard times, they were really hard.. but we always grew more valiant because of them.. And last week.. He out of nowhere goes "Lets go out and have fun, you go with your girls and i go with my gus.." I was like okay.. It was weird at first since he always sheltered me.. Anyway, later that night I called him, he didn't asnwer then picked up and hungup on me.. . I didn't talk to him till the next morning.. He called me and was like hey baby what's up and so on.. And told me he loved me repeadtly. I knew in my heart I had to let go.. So I go "im not happy" we started fighting and hehung up. I didn't hear from him the rest of the day.. I called he didn't asnwer, called his friends, and everything. I technically didn't break up with him.. Anyway, its now Thursday, and I just talked to him yesterday.. I didn't call him for a few days.. and he never answered.. And he did yesterday.. We talked, he told me that.. he almost cheated on me Friday and went to the club and he was so happy.. That wasn't the person I knew.. It broke my heart.. And stupid me, trying to win him back (sad as it seems I had him so whipped.. well I did.) And nothing worked, for a bit there, he was like yeah do you want to get back with me and talking about it.. Then it went to.. "Just move on" and "i love you but im having fun single and i dont know what the future holds now, i just wanna party" and "i dont wanna be tied down"... ect. Now here, I am... losing. I am trying so hard to stay strong, but I want to give in so bad.. I miss the thought of who he used to be.. That's what I'm holding onto.. I do not know how to let go.. Seriously, I've been out eeverynight.. I haven't really thought about him until yesterday.. I just want him to miss me and then when he comes back to me, I can shove it in his face. That's mean, but I want him to feel what I felt.. I want the ball in my court. How do I win? I want to make him feel bad.. and miss me.. and everything. I don't know what went wrong and where it changed. If you only knew what we had... Maybe it was time.. to let go. But honestly, how?

[Fr_Chuck]

I am sure you have a nice question, but sorry the font size is so small I just can't read it, You may wish to try using a more standard font that is easier to read by those on here

So without really reading your question, you move on by doing it, first you stop having any contact with the ex. You starrt meeting new people, start getting invovled in life and move on.

[Bassdrop]

It sounds like you've mostly let go already... you're going out every night, you said you want to make him feel bad and miss you so that you can shove it in his face when he comes back... sounds vengeful, not like you're truly interested in having him back. And really, if he went out just one night and almost cheated on you... I say good riddance.

As for how to move on, I haven't figured that one out yet myself, sorry... but you're going out and doing things, that's a pretty good start I think.

[Chery]

I am sure you hvae a nice question, but sorry the font size is so small I just can't read it, You may wish to try using a more standard font that is easier to read by those on here

So without really reading your question, you move on by doing it, first you stop having any contact with the ex. you starrt meeting new people, start getting invovled in life and move on.

It's not just the font... it is something with Java script and Interenet Explorer. When I call up AMHD with Firefox I get larger fonts and it is easier for me to read. So, maybe we can ask 'management" to change the font size for us 'old' folks so that I don't have to use the magnifyer every time I have a long post to read.

Those young folks just don't think that fare while they still see well.

but I'd like to read what you have to 'say' too.

[Chery]

Dear sommerloven.
I don't know what age-group you are in, but once I read that you were homebodies and enjoyed it - I could not believe that you young folks can go on so long without enjoying a part of life that all should at some point.

Then, you told us you were not very happy with the results - even though your man told you the truth and did not keep anything from you. I'm sure he felt guilty, but all men do, and they don't always all 'cheat' - almost is something we women also do sometimes when we see some great buns walking around. But that does not mean we don't love or care for our guys at home.

Before calling it off altogether, I'd ask him if he's willing to go to couples counselling, and both of you work on being young, living life before thinking about making new life. You still have a lot of playing time to do together so that you can have good memories to tell your grandkids.

You can both share an entertaining life without getting bored and miffed over trivial things. Have a 'girl's night, a guys'n night, and then a night together somewhere fun - don't stay home all the time, you'll miss out on a lot.

You also sound like you need to go to a fitness center to work off some aggression because getting vengeful is not the way to warmth and comfort in the arms of someone you claim you've loved for years.