[meandcam]

Hi
I recently married a man who is going through a lot with an ex wife... let me explain he was married to this woman who begged him to adopt two children not biologically his and then begged him to have a vasectomy and then a week before his birthday told him she wanted a divorce because she was pregnant with someone else's child.
She is Bipolar/borderline personality disorder. Her youngest has anxiety attacks, cries because she doesn't want to go home and has many fears which stem from her mother.
We are not totally positive but we think the exwife is friends with a worker at the children's aid society and she wrote Nicole HIS ex wife a letter after only spending one hour with them that she had happy well adjusted children. When the CAS worker questioned my husband about Nicole she pointed out and talked about their relationship(WHICH had nothing to do with the children) I don't get how they could write such a letter for the courts, my husband had wanted proof that she was getting treatment but the judge dismissed it saying if it was good enough with CAS it was good enough for the courts.

This woman is has got the act down pat she works with the Health unit none the less promoting health although she herself has admitted she doesn't need medication or treatment!

Further more her and my husband have joint custody but not joint residency and he did want the children half time but was refused at the mothers request.
She had gone and went and made medical decisions without my husbands consent to a cosmetic procedure for orthodontic work and he had declared bankruptcy not long ago. She expects him to pay half and he may half too but now she's is saying that her daughter is going to need braces too and that comes into the whole $5000 mark. Im about to have a nervous breakdown over this she got everything she wanted in court although we have to go back.

The kids shouldn't even be with her she constantly screams at them and her mental illness is truly a worry.
She is trying to suck him dry for every penny and if its not on her terms she's call CAS on us... How do we stop her? She is so manipulative and puts on a good front!
Any legal advice would be appreciated!
Alin

[charlotte234s]

If she works for a health care place, why doesn't she have a health care and dental care plan to pay for the treatments she authorized? That is crap.

If the children don't want to be with her, talk to a lawyer about letting your children choose who has custody (assuming they are about teenaged, they don't let little kids choose, and you would be okay with getting custody of the kids) and if you+your husband get custodial rights you can make the decisions and don't have to pay for hers, and not have to deal with her besides perhaps visitation and to seek child support.

[misterk]

I recommend you ask for second opinion from other resources involved in helping children. If possible, you can try to be very nice and talk to the manger or supervisor at CAS and see if they can give you an unbiased opinion which can work back in court.