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    kristenje123 Posts: 3, Reputation: 1
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    Nov 14, 2007, 12:40 AM
    virgin in a relationship
    I'm 17, in university and still a virgin. Me and my ex dated for 8 months but never did it. He wasn't a virgin but I kept psycing myself out and I feel that's why we didn't work out. Now I have a new boyfriend we've only been dating for about a month and I don't want to make the same mistake as last time. What should I do?
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    Nov 14, 2007, 01:06 AM
    Keep your virginity. Once you lose it you will never get it back!
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    Nov 14, 2007, 01:49 AM
    Hi honey,
    First, congrats for still being a virgin, not many your age can proclaim the same.

    Then, if your current boyfriend respects and cares enough for you to wait, you are lucky girl.

    The first basis of a good relationship is communication, talk to each other about everything under the sun to include how you feel about petting, your body, what attracts you, how far you feel your current relationship should go. And, most important is that you should convey that you don't want to give him false hopes and that the time will come when you both will feel whether you are ready or not.

    He should also respect that even under heavy petting, when the time comes and you say NO, that's exactly what you mean and that he needs to respect that. If he cannot comply with your current emotional needs and choices, and if he pressures you, he is only thinking of himself and the sooner you find that out, the sooner you can dump him and find someone that respects your wishes, therefore avoiding an un-needed breakup and stress situation.

    This should never be based on the "everybody's doing it" scenario and you deserve to be respected and not pressured.

    Good luck, I hope he's the right one for you, if not, then that's OK, there are more out there.

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    dataguneed Posts: 28, Reputation: 3
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    Nov 14, 2007, 11:04 AM
    Do watever you feel don't let anyone pressure you into sex find someone who feels the same you do about sex and also follow your religion/beliefs

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