[ophelia]

So this guy I'm seeing and I have talked about it and want to have sex but he's nervous because he's still a virgin and I'm not. He's eighteen and I'm nineteen and actually only lost my virginity earlier this year (away at university... really friendly prof... you get the picture). He's a bit intimidated by the fact that I have experience-- with an older and very experienced guy, and he's also worried that for the first little while the pleasuring will be somewhat one-sided until he gets more comfortable with it... any tips on how I can make this easier for him?

[Xrayman]

Perhaps spending some time focused on him will help, then move on to the more sexual aspects. Maybe show him some of your recently acquired skills? Show him that you want him.

Cheers

[bushg]

1. It is not a good idea to discuss your sex life with potential partners for various reasons. 2.Use condoms and birth control. 3. let him know that he can take plenty of time with foreplay and please you that way,that it just doesn't have to be with intercourse. 4. Reassure him that you do not expect fireworks, the first time that he can always make i6 up to you. 5. Why not wait and let it happen, do not plan it, that way he doesn't have time to keep thinking about it. 7. Be careful, read up on all types of std's, including crawly critters.

[Dennis777]

Hello.

Let him know that he has all the time in the world to learn to make you happy.

I have talked to so Many Ladies that wish they had a chance to teach or find a Man that knew how to make them happy instead of getting a Man that is already stuck in the macho Jump on get it over with quick ideas.

Take it slow and start with Foreplay. Long relaxing foreplay and when he sees that he can Make you happy in ways other then intercourse he will relax and be ready to go all the way. Many Young Men only know about being a stud and lasting all night like they see in the movies and are told by their friends. And we all Know their friends are lying hehehe.

Good Luck
Dennis777

[ophelia]

How about this will be the second guy I've ever sept with I made the ast guy get tested before I slept with him, this guy and I went and got tested together (just in case) and I always use a condom. Never mind the fact that I don't believe marriaghe should have any sway over the decisions I make because I don't believe in it. And just so you know, not everyone needs to get married and have kids... that's not the life I want for myself and no one has the right to judge another person and try to thrust their personal beliefs. That's particularly low considering I came here for advice and help.

To everyone else, thank you for your input. We haven't made any set plans and I have already said all of that stuff to him.

[smoothy]

The first time together will always be a bit uncomfortable since you don't really know each others buttons and the general nervousness of a first time together. Don't sweat it.

[excon]

.. any tips on how I can make this easier for him?

Hello ophelia:

You betcha. Next time you are alone with him, unzip his pants and start doing your thing. Talking, you'll find, will be quite unnecessary.

excon

[yaleoxford2nd]

so this guy I'm seeing and I have talked about it and want to have sex but he's nervous because he's still a virgin and I'm not. He's eighteen and I'm nineteen and actually only lost my virginity earlier this year (away at university...really friendly prof...you get the picture). He's a bit intimidated by the fact that I have experience-- with an older and very experienced guy, and he's also worried that for the first little while the pleasuring will be somewhat one-sided until he gets more comfortable with it... any tips on how I can make this easier for him?

Me I wouldn't do it with a virgian

[smoothy]

My first few girlfriends had much more experience than I had. I count that as a plus because I got quite the education from them.