[khough23]

My ex husband does drugs and that's why he is my ex husband! But he has a very wealthy mother and she just bought him a house and pays for everything, but the house is three houses away from a convicted sex offender. I have sole custody of our 4 year old daughter and I was just curious if he could try to get joint. Because he says he doesn't do drugs anymore but I know I better than that! Because before I told him I wanted a divorce I told him to pick our daughter and myself or drugs and he kept doing drugs but every time he has been stopped and searched he doesn't have any on him or they never find them. What can I do or what should I do? Please help!

[s_cianci]

Do you have any tangible evidence of his continued drug use? Or of the convicted sex offender living 3 doors away from your ex? Your best bet is to push for your ex to have supervised visitation, away from his home. That's not unreasonable given the circumstances.

[Green Eyed Lady]

What state do you live in? You may want to check out you state's rules regarding visitation. I know some insist on some kind of visitation. In the area I live in, if the father has supervised visitation, it is at a disignated place (like courthouse, family court center) and it is almost like visiting someone in prison... there is an unbias third party standing there while the father visits with his children. If your state doesn't require joint custody, then you may try to get sole custody. Unfortunately there is a prevailing thought in the court system that any kind of relationship a child has with their father is better than none. I believe that is true unless the relationship with the father (or mother) can harm the child. I think you are wise to be concerned. I am sorry you are going through this. I take it that you are the resident parent?