[bamski456]

Right.. Well I'm living at home with my mum and my oldest brother. My other brother who I got on with so much left under such bad circumstances and seems to blame me. He was really like a best friend and helped me.. although he was 5 years older than me we were just so close and I looked up to him like no one else, he was who I wanted to be like. Then his girlfriend moved in which I had nothing against it just meant I had less time with my brother. He was acting differently and being generally mean to me. A few weeks went by and one day when his girlfriend was at work we were talking again.. it makes ma happy. And he said to me I'm sorry for the last few weeks I've been stupid and I know ill always be here for you. That meant loads to me. Nothing changed. He was worse than ever. One day I had my music on and my door open, and really out of nowhere he just got up against the wall with his hands round my neck and told me he'd kill me. That scared me to death but it really wasn't him talking. I don't think he'd ever do something like that, but he is really aggressive. My mum was also feeling uncomfortable so asked his girlfriend to leave just while he gets stuff together. She absolutely kicked off and loads happened that night that I'm not going into but now he's with her somewhere and won't talk to me, every time I try and contact him he sends me stuff saying he doesn't want me in his life. I feel absolutely horrible and cannot stop crying. My mum just says I'm sulking all the time. I don't think I am? Because this has really affected me because we were so close. No one understands and I just don't know what to do.

[peggyhill]

It sounds like he has some serious issues to settle. Do you think it might be some sort of mental problem? If he suddenly started acting differently, is there a possibility that he might have been high or drunk? Encourage your mother to suggest to him that he gets some counseling. Maybe a counselor can help him figure out what is making him act this way. It's totally normal to feel sad about this. After all, someone you deeply admire has been very mean to you. Your mother probably just has a lot on her plate right now, and is trying to deal with this herself. Is there another adult you could talk to about this? Maybe you could talk to a teacher you like, a religious leader, or another relative or friend. Keep hanging in there! I hope your brother sorts out his feelings and apologizes to you. If my son choked my daughter, I would call the police on him. Even though it's hard to be away from him, it's probably for the best right now, since he was being violent. If your brother does come around, just tell him you love him and you want him to get some help so he can be his old self again. I hope this helps!