[dianamonkey123]

:confused: I'm 25 & my now ex is 27. We were together for 1 1/2 years. About 2 weeks ago he broke up with me because he didn't think we could be together in the future. I was pressuring him to decide if we could be together forever.. which I now know was completely stupid.. I was acting insecure. We tried to get back together a week ago but I still felt like he was unhappy and I felt like he was being pressured to be with me. Plus he was only calling ever few days and that was hard for me... breaking my heart. So I told him that we should not talk anymore since he was so unsure. He started to cry and I cried. He kept saying that he would miss me and he cared so much about me and at one time he was in love with me and I was the best girlfriend he ever had. He also said that he though us separating was for the BEST... which I disagreed. I told him I was no longer going to call him and it was best for him to no longer call me cause it was so hard for me. We haven't talked in 3 days. I want to call him but I know he needs space. Is it possible that he still has feelings for me and one day he might want me bacK?? Is it OK for me to call him in a couple weeks if he has not called?? Am I just wasting my time hoping for him to come back?? What should I do??

[Jiser]

No contact is the first thing. Concentrate on you for now, keep busy and try changing your routines around. Try some new things and go out with the girls! Plan some trips away and other things to look forward to.

Might be worth you reading the first two topics on the relationships forum here. These stickys provide a wealth of information which will help you.

The more you push the more he will pull! People are attracted to happy, confident people not depressed ones.

[Diamondstar03]

I am going through something very similar. It is best to keep No Contact in play. It is the only way to get yourself to heal. Don't get me wrong, it is the hardest thing to do not to talk to the one you are in love with. I check my phone all the time for any calls or texts and it makes me sad I don't get any until she is sad and wants me to show her I am still there. I have been broken up for 3 months now and still get the line "I can't figure out what I want" every few weeks or so. She plays me I think for her own healing just to want to make sure I am still there. I will not give her the satisfaction anymore. She broke my heart. NC is the only solution that works. Why would you want to be with someone who doesn't feel the same way about you? It is a hard reality to take, but after 5 1/2 years it is hard to swallow she doesn't want to be with me, I don't know really who she is anymore. Anyway I am truly sorry for your situation. I sure hope it gets better for you. Just know you are not alone. We all are dealing with it as well. Just be sure, NC is the best way. Let them go and if they come back then you know they love you for you.