[mean_girl_sexy]

Hi I'm emma.
I have been with my husband four and a half years we been married for 3 off them years we did it very young I was 18 and he was 20. We have always argued that's normal. But just after christmas this year a work collogue off his started a rumour he was seeing a girl who he worked with. My husband told me about the rumour and told me the full story so that if I did here it I would not get the wrong end off he stick. The only thing is once he told me every time I saw him talking to her it was like someone punching me in the stomach because they would always be laughing and that was the start of what I did that ruined my marriage. I never let it go I was always joking saying oh your at work tomorrow you will see your girlfriend he just laughed it off. He has always had an habit off just disappearing and been extremely late. Well that never bothered me before but now it did every were he went if there was a women involed I thought he was seeing them I though he was seeing the women who sold us our house. Because he would always disappear to the sales office to chat but we were good friends with her I see that now. One bank holiday I was sat on the settee and he kept getting text messages and smiling so when he went to bed I went and got his phone it was my friend alison getting hi telling him too come out because her friend she was out with which was matts ex really likes him off course I for some stupid reason thought he was seeing both alison the girl who sent the messages and sarah his ex. Now this has gone on for months he talks to alison online every night and has the biggest smile on his face every time I would not say she was pretty but she not ugly but she got a lovely personality and very bright. Now this is now the boiling point off what as split us up. It was a Saturday we woke with both massive hangover from the following night. He cuddled me and that led too more after that he got up got dressed and said I'm just popping to adams his best mate who just lives opposite us I fell bk asleep when I woke up two hours had past I got dressed and popped round to adams the car was outside so I no he had not gone no were else while I was asleep I knocked on the door adams girlfriend kat answered I said is matt ere she said no I said has he been here she said no. so I went on my way bk to the house and started ringing his phone no answer when I rang it the third time still no answer. Then about five seconds later he walk through the door. He said hi I said were the hell you been you been 2 hours. He just looked and changed the subject. Which when he did that made me more suspicious and said no were you been because you not been to adams because I've been round there. He looked at me and said I been to the sales office and had a coffee and a chat. Jill is the women the sales rep at the top off this story. I went mad what the hell do you have to talk about with her that takes this long he just walk away I followed him shouting and for rest off day would not shut up about it. Then the next day was my cousins christening he never came or never picked me up I slept at my mums the next day I got a text from a friend saying omg can't believe you split up. I rang I'm straight away he picked me up said he wanted me and my daughter his daughter out to go to my mums he can't be married to someone who does not trust him he said he could understand if it was one person I was excusing him off but it's a load off diff people I understand what I've done and how stupid I've been. Were still living together because I have no were to go and is so hard because he not letting me forget what I've done. Its so hard being here living with him. He wants to be friends we have been out and had a laugh and it was great I thoiugth yes he wants me back till Monday night . He came in from work and said I'm off out I'm taking alison to hull fair the girl who was being him. I just want him bk how can I do this I need him bk I love him so much

[cerisa]

He is spending a lot of time talking with other women. You confront him with your concerns,he gets defensive, and then is taking another woman to a fair?
Following him shouting all day is not healthy, but your suspicions are well founded. Find a more mature way to discuss them with him. Counseling would be the best bet if he will go.
Marrying young is not an excuse for looking outside the marrige for companionship. He needs to tell you if something is lacking in your marrige. You can't fix it if you don't know what he wants.

[Homegirl 50]

I think he has given you reason to feel as you do, he is also trying to make this all of your fault. Sounds to me like the man is cheating. He has asked you to leave. Do it. He is not worth the hassle.

[talaniman]

I think you need a separation to let your mind unravel, and your emotions to settle down, and see things in a realistic light. His actions are feeding your fear and insecurity. To many females in the mix, in my opinion.

[emo girl45]

I can see that he wants to move on. Maybe if after a few tries, he still doesn't want to get back together you need to move on. I know you say you love him, but its important to not throw the rest of your life away trying to get him to come back to you. Its obvious you upset him when you accused him of being with other women. But it really seems like you need to sit down with him and talk about it, clear the air becase if you don't you'll never know what's going to happen to you guys
I really hope this goes well and by the way
MY NAMES EMMA 2
OMG
OK bye