[Rinne84]

Hi, my name is Corinne and I've been going out with a guy for 6 years now. We started dating when I was 17.. I am 23 years now. Over the years, he's lied to me and I've also been interested in other people because I rarely see him. He used to live down the street from me, but his parents moved to Georgia so he had to find an apartment on his own. He's had this apartment for 3 years and still hasn't let me see it. Whenever I ask about it, it gets angry at me. He also went to his best friends(whom he says ne never talks to or hangouts with anymore) wedding.. and I found out he went from myspace.. and he lied in my face and said he didn't know about it.. when he was the best man. I only see him once a week.. my parents hate him.. my friends don't care for him.. I am confused.. Because I don't see him much.. I tend to hangout with guys a lot and like them.. I tell my fiancée.. yes we are engaged... since Thanksgiving... about the guys I hangout with.. then he acts like I want him to.. then, when those guys don't want to be friends with me anymore.. he turns back to normal. I just met this really great guy at work and I hungout with him 4 times already and I have the greatest time. He makes me feel great about myself. The first time we hungout.. he let me see his house and use his bathroom.. where as my fiancée wouldn't even let me inside his apartment or use his bathroom.. I would have to go to a store down the street to use one. I don't know what to do. I don't want to hurt him, but I don't feel happy anymore.. only on that one day I see him.. which is for 10 hours.

[talaniman]

Sounds like a rather unhappy and unhealthy relationship and I honestly don't see why you accept this behavior from him. Ain't that much love in the world for you to stay with this guy and be miserable. Your choice.

[chuff]

I had to read that twice. I have to ask, when you say his parents moved to Georgia did you mean in the United States or the country? I just can't believe anyone in the U.S. would put with that treatment. You are not good enough to use the bathroom? For the love of God, my dog has gone on my living room floor and while I'm not thrilled about it, I don't kick her out of the house for 3 years. I can't imagine why you parents would hate a guy that makes their daughter go to the bathroom down the street. It must be tough for them to know their daugther is the victim of abuse and they can't do anything but watch you ask for more.

Seriously, there's something really wrong here. How he's treating you is beyond cruel. But the real question is why are you accepting of it, especially for 6 years? You need to dump him and find out why you accept such stupid, assine, and abusive behavior. Like I said, I wouldn't treat my dog like that, and if someone else treated my dog like that, they'd have to answer to me for it. You need to start answering to the most important person in your life, and that is you. You can do better then this and I don't mean by a guy, I mean by this situation. You are more then you are giving yourself the credit and capabiltity to become.

[Sad Soul]

Yeah he's going to continue treating you like this for the rest of your life because you allow it. You haven't left, so he will for the rest of your married life be the same. Or maybe even worse actually.

Tell me this: if a friend came, or your sister, or some girl you truly love, told you this exact story was what was happening to them, what advice would you give them? I think you would tell your friend to leave...

[J_9]

One question I kept having over and over while reading your post is... Are you sure he isn't married? He sure seems to be hiding something from you.

You don't want to hurt him? Come on, does he make you feel good?

I'm sorry, I just see too many red flags here in this relationship. I still have an inkling he is married. He has too many secrets here.

If he has not let you in his apartment for 3 years what makes you think he is ever going to let you inside his apartment?