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Love me not · Sep 21, 2007, 01:38 PM

Okay, Im 16 and I have dated my ex-boyfriend for almost 2 years and he broke up with me on Monday. The reason he broke up with me is because he said his feelings towards me started to change. But I feel like when your in a long term relationship your feelings start to change but then everything will go back the same. We are still talking but only as friends. Do you think we will get back together?

GlindaofOz · Sep 21, 2007, 02:05 PM

You are correct that when you are in a long term relationship your feelings do change. But they change more from heart thumping crazy passion to a more settled in intimate type of love.

What I think your ex-boyfriend is talking about is that his feelings changed from more romantic love to more friendship love.

In order for you to get back together he will have to want to come back. You can't make anyone do or feel something that I don't.

I'm sure this is very hard. I remember being 16 and having my heart broken it was the toughest thing ever. It will get better. However if you think him being your friend and being around you all the time makes it hard for you to get over him consider maybe taking a break from the friendship in order to let your heart heal.

luvvsux · Sep 24, 2007, 05:58 PM

I deff agree.. and if both of you really care about each other then things will work out for yous and its meant to be.. my friends kind of going through this right now too.. it might not relate but he said he wants to be single after going out for more than 2 years, I think it might be because he wants to see if she will start flirting and being with other guys and if she really cares... also he might just want a break and if he really loved you he will realize the loss and take you back

nkychic · Sep 24, 2007, 06:07 PM

I agree with both of the people below. As you said, feelings do change in a relationship, but I agree that he means he's leaning more toward friends. I can remember being heartbroken, feeling almost helpless in every situation. I can assure you one thing, no matter what happens, things will work out the way they are supposed to if you simply let them. Don't force anything, don't sit around and wait for him. Live your life and let things work themselves out. You may find that this relationship is one of the many that lead you to the partner you will live with forever, or you may find that this breakup will ultimately lead you back to your ex boyfriend. Either way, just have fun. You are 16, live your life to it's fullest. The rest will come in time.

<3 Leslie

thisisjo · Oct 13, 2007, 08:23 AM

This is quite similar to what has happened to me just. I am a little older though I am 21 but that doesn't mean that you wouldn't feel as hurt as I do. Its really confusing when you hear that the person you have come so close to and known so well over the past two years wouldn't want to be with you. Its also a feeling of disbelief that he doesn't know what he is doing and that he hasn't really thought about it. What I believe has happened is that you are so young and you hve known each other since you were very young that he is worrying that he is missing out on his youth. He seen all of his single friends going out flirting and copping off with random girls and thinks that your relationship is holding him back . If this is the case then he will soon realise that he isn't missing out on anything but I think you need to let him go for now for him to see that. If you don't let him experience it now then in a few years time when you are even more dependent on him he will want to experience it then. Maybe you need a break too. Im not saying it means that you feel any ifferent about each other. But at such a young age you need to devlop yourself as a person. My boyfriend is 22 and before me he has been in relationships since he was young and has never been on his own so now I believe he is experiencing the single life and hopefully will soon realise that having someone that makes it all worth while is great and much better than being single. But only time will tell. Life is a funny thing and you never know what's round the corner.

This famous quote might help it helps me... "If you love someone let him free", if he is yours he will come back, if not he was never meant to be yours.