[cozy22]

My son has his father's last name and I had to get permission from him to move out of the country with my son. If I change my son's last name to my last name can he move then with me out of the country with no problems? Can someone help me?

[Wondergirl]

I don't think it's the last name that matters, but it the custody agreement that has been set forth by a judge. What is the custody agreement in your case?

[macksmom]

The simple answer is no.

Regardless of the last name, it is the custody order that is the issue. The last name has no bearings.

And as far as the last name goes... you would have to get the fathers permission to change that as well.

[cozy22]

Thanks :(

[NoEarnedIncome]

My son has his father's last name and I had to get permission from him to move out of the country with my son. If I change my son's last name to my last name can he move then with me out of the country with no problems? Can someone help me?

Do you have to get permission to move your child to another state? If not, this may be a partial solution if you "fear the father" or have some significant reason to want to move your child out of country.

If the father is meeting his obligations and not knowing the age of your child, perhaps you need to at least make sure your reason for moving out of country versus out of state, etc. is fair - assuming fair is what is best for your son. Often non custodial fathers get a bad rap even when they are being a really good parent.

[ScottGem]

"A rose by any other name would still smell as sweet"
Wm Shakespeare

In other words, changing your son's name doesn't change the court orders that are binding on you. In fact, trying to get around those orders by changing your name would be considered fraud and illegal. It would make matters worse when caught, and you would be caught.