[intherapy]

I have two daughters, one 6, the other 8. In the past year they have been through a lot, including the separation and divorce of their father and I. I uprooted them from their home after the breakup and dragged them across the country back home where I could be close to family during this difficult transition.

I am worried. My sister and I used to fight but I don't ever remember it being as it is between my two daughters. I need some advice. As a single parent it is hard mother three little ones (there is a younger son, 2), work and do everything else to maintain a semi-comfortable life for them. What are some things that I can do to make them feel secure. I feel a lot of their anger stems from a lack of control and stability in their little lives. I have let them know that we are a family and need to stick together and be kind to one another because we are all we have. I realize there are emotional repercussions that may manifest from this whole mess more and more as time passes. I need them to feel they are loved and also that they need to treat each other with that love in return. I have a hard time not yelling at them when they treat each other the way that they do, but I know that this is just reaffirming their behaviors with the same behavior. Any suggestions would be great.

[Monica2]

I have two daughters, one 6, the other 8. In the past year they have been through a lot, including the separation and divorce of their father and I. I uprooted them from thier home after the breakup and dragged them across the country back home where I could be close to family during this difficult transition.

I am worried. My sister and I used to fight but I don't ever remember it being as it is between my two daughters. I need some advice. As a single parent it is hard mother three little ones (there is a younger son, 2), work and do everything else to maintain a semi-comfortable life for them. What are some things that I can do to make them feel secure. I feel alot of their anger stems from a lack of control and stability in their little lives. I have let them know that we are a family and need to stick together and be kind to one another because we are all we have. I realize there are emotional repercussions that may manifest from this whole mess more and more as time passes. I need them to feel they are loved and also that they need to treat each other with that love in return. I have a hard time not yelling at them when they treat each other the way that they do, but I know that this is just reaffirming their behaviors with the same behavior. Any suggestions would be great.

It really sucks when kids are in the mix of the divorce. I've been through that and I remember me and my sister (we're only 1 year apart) drove our mom crazy after her divorce. Now me and my sister are grown with our own children and a day doesn't go by that we don't talk. She has been through everything with me and I've been there for her. I truly think if you give it time everything will be great you'll see.