[Emily94]

The other day me and my cousin snuck out of her houseat like 2:30am(I know bad don't lecture me) and went and hung out with this guy, and at like 4:00am went to his house, ans stayed there till like 7:30, but in the mean time we got a little two close um lets say with are hands:p opn his couch, then me and my cousin left. I don't know if he like me and I haven't talked to him since and he did this to another girl but went all the way... I like ihm but I don't know.. can anyone help me please!!

[GlindaofOz]

How old are you and how old is he?

[Emily94]

13&&13

[GlindaofOz]

You are too young to be engaging in that sort of behavior.

[Emily94]

Holly my best friends is pregnant, my friend has a kid! There both 15! Come on the world is so different if only some people realised how much!

[GlindaofOz]

I suppose you want to be the same?

No adult on here will condone the sort of behavior that you engaged in. you sneaked out of your house and spent time with some boy and let him touch you. If you want an honest opinion he probably liked that you let him touch you not you.

[Emily94]

And all I wanted is helP!

[Emily94]

I like him! And I was fine with it! But I don't no he hasn't talked to me since! And no I'm not trying to be like them or I would have went out and got pregnant! I'm still a virgin!

[Emily94]

And also I don't no I just ant help on what to do?

[GlindaofOz]

and also i dont no i just ant help on what to do?

Stop doing self destructive things. If you keep going down the path you are on you will end up like the friends that you mentioned

[Emily94]

K well if your so concerned with me doing destructive stuff then you don't no the half of it!

[GlindaofOz]

That's nothing to be proud of. Why do you feel pride in doing bad things? That's awful. You should grow up slowly so you don't end up in bad situations. The choices you make in your life now can affect you for the rest of your life. If you are not ready for the consequences of all of your actions then you should not do those things.

[Emily94]

No I don't but I wanted help and you come on here and not give me help, oyu rag on me worse than my mother!

[Dennis777]

Hello.

We do know how much the world has changed, believe it or not in my days and I'm an Old Fart Girls thought the same way you do. Its never changed and I'm sure never will no matter how hard we try to get young people like you to see how your life changes after sex not to mention after a baby.

When your young you can't wait to grow up and you think you know it all, then as you get older you wish you could change what you did in the past because you find out how much you didn't know and how much you still don't know.

I Know, I'm old and don't know anything, So nows your chance to prove me wrong. Look at this site or any site that deals with teens and sex and you will find the majority of the Ladies will be saying I wish I didn't do what I did so young. You know what?? I bet all of them where saying the same thing you are right now. Don't take it from me take it from Ladies around your age that have been through what your about to go through.

Please stop and think, being cool is not worth hurting the people that Love you.

Dennis777

[Emily94]

That was a little bit more help but I don't no... what do I tell him?

[Wondergirl]

Tell him about what?

Do you want us to approve of what you did? Or do you want us to advise you, so you can straighten out your life and attract good guys who will treasure you?

Like Glinda indicated, you should have been home in bed alone and asleep. What you did in being out that time of night was probably against the law too.

[GlindaofOz]

You need someone to set boundaries for you. You are only 13. You have a good 70 years in front of you why are you rushing into this behavior.

What you did was this boy was give him permission to use you. He was not your boyfriend, you don't know him that well and you said hey I'm here for the taking I have no respect for my body or for my reputation. When you allow people to use you they will use you. This boy used you. If you have not heard from him since this happened then guess what? He doesn't really like you he likes that you let him use you. That is my advice. I said that earlier and just because you don't like what I have to say doesn't make it untrue or bad advice.

I have years on you honey and while you may not want to believe what I've written its true. If you start defining yourself, yourself worth on your sexuality you are in for a very sad life. You do not have to let anyone touch you in anyway for someone to like you. When you start to think that way you are just setting yourself up for being used.

[Emily94]

What do I do now?:(

[GlindaofOz]

Start respecting yourself. You can change your behavior now and change your life. Stop sneaking around and stop rushing into growing up. You have plenty of time for all of that. Focus on school and friends. There is no reason to be sexually active in anyway at your age. You are not emotionally or mentally mature enough to handle the responsibilities.

Search for BubbleTea123 on here. Read her beautiful post on saving herself for when she is older. That is someone for you to look up to.

There is nothing in this world that you cannot change Emily, nothing. Its never to let to be a better person and to stop doing bad things that harm you.

[MOWERMAN2468]

Get with the times?? You will still have the same expenses as an adult, or your parents will to raise a child. My advise is stay at home at 2:30a.m. you should be in bed sleeping at this time of morning. And as far as what glindaofox told you is correct, he probably liked feeling you up and we will not condone this from someone your age, I do not care what year it is , it is still not right. Sounds like you are headed for a reputation that may or may not be deserved. Who knows, you, the person or people you are with and GOD. Don't try to grow up so fast, you are still a child rather you think so or not.