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lonely_blue · Aug 19, 2007, 06:58 AM

My girlfriend split up with me about a month ago. Her reasons for splitting up was that she was not being treated properly. After a week of nc I asked to meet up to talk about things properly, she didn't want to as she said it was to early, but would let me know when she was ready. After another week I asked her again and she said she would see what she was up to at the weekend. Anyway we met that weekend and talked things over. She came up with other reasons she wanted to end it, which included doing things, on her own, she had never mentioned before,also that she thought I talked to one of my friends about our relationship, and she was a third person in our relationship(she is mentioned below.)
A week and half later I was told she had mentioned to someone else at work that one my other female friends, also her friend, was one the reasons. I sent her a text to meet briefly later that day, not telling her why. She wanted to no what about, so I just told her about last week and not when we met up. She then replied that she wanted to leave it a few more weeks as she was still upset how things had happened, and asking if this about the afformentioned other friend.
I replied saying that I didn't understand why she thought that she was part of our relationship.

After a few more msges I said I was going to stop because this couldn't be done properly via text. She replied with a very angry text (no other messges sent by either of us were angry). It included a personal insult. And saying she didn't want to get pi**ed of with me, but was angry about other people trying to get involved in what happened. After waiting 30mins I replied telling her that all I wanted was a quick chat, and that this is what she turned it into, and let her no how hurt I was at the comment, and gave her another suggestion of a cheap shot she could have at me.

She replied saying that I new her reasons for ending it and why she was unhappy, and didn't no why other people had to get involved. And appologising that she hurt me and didn't mean to do it.
I did not reply to this and 10mins later she sent another saying she so sorry. Again I didn't reply. 1hr30mins later she sent another appologising again sying she didn't know who was her was her friend at the moment and wanted things t be OK between us.

I replied saying this was what I wanted as well.

She replied again saying she was sick of other people sticking there noses in, again. Then said sorry for the fact that she was over our relationship.. despite earlier saying that she was upset how things had happened.

I have now not had any contacted with her since. Not even when I see her at work

Im confused

DownLookingUp · Aug 19, 2007, 07:26 AM

I think its one of two... either its personal guilt she is having about something she did and you don't know about and she is taking it out on u... or it's that she wants you to keep fighting for her so that she feels she is your number one and that you really care about her (cuz I don't think she would have said sorry three times or felt bad if she didn't have strong feelings still)... women are confusing... better check with some of the good ladies here they would know best.

Take care man.. best of luck and wishes.

lonely_blue · Aug 19, 2007, 07:45 AM

Cheers thanks for the reply. I now she had been working with someone else in the office while I was on an away job, and she hed benn talking to him about things, but I don't think she would cheated on me. But when she first broke up with me, she did say that there wasn't another person, which did then make me think' why did you bring up this one thing?'

I no she has also bought this person a gift, when he was down, when this was I don't know. But I do feel she's after him.

lonely_blue · Aug 19, 2007, 08:52 AM

Any more advice would be great.

talaniman · Aug 19, 2007, 02:00 PM

As I have told you in your other post let it go as it can only get you more confused, and leave this female alone. What are you a glutton for punishment, as how many ways does a female have to break up with you, until you get the message. Now move on.

I have now not had any contacted with her since. Not even when I see her at work

Keep it that way, and that's the best thing you could do for yourself.