[golfprofessionaljch]

I meet a woman about 3 months ago and at that time did not know that I would have to be moving in about 2 weeks for the job I have. I had to move 16 hours away from where we lived before. I told her and she thought about it for a couple days and asked me if she could move with me she really wanted to be with me. I said yes but when we moved down here she turned into a different person. Would always leave things around and never pick up after herself. I was the person that seemed like I cooked and picked up after her all the time. We have had talks aboutthis and fights about this and she said she would change. But after a couple weeks she would go back to her normal self and we would fight again. It was ongoing process we would also fight about money. The money split was me 80% and her 20 %. She had bad credit and could not have anything in her name. So I was out of town for 3 days and she decided shecould not take the arguing anymore and moved in with a friend that is 4 months pregnant and her boyfriend. I turned off her cell phone, car insurance closed the bank account and changed the locks. I told her to get all her stuff out of the apartment not just her clothes liked she wanted to. She also was supposed to pick me up from the airport that was 1 hour from the house but she said she could not face me. I have no way to contact her but she will call maybe once a day and this past Tuesday she came over because she wanted to see me and eventually spent the night. I get mixed signals from her like she wants this to work and there are times she just wants to be alone. I need to find a way to get over her and just move on and be happy but haiving a hard time with it. Anyone got any suggestions and if she wants to come back should I let her.

[darniboy]

Hmmmmmmmmmmm I don't really no I mean would you really want a lazy argumentitive women in your house 24 seven by the sound sound of it you diddnt seem very happy. I no how you fell though its hard to forget someone you love and have let go of but I always think to myself if I'm in that situation there are millions of other men out there for me why dwell on this one move on enjoy life:D


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[s_cianci]

I think you made too many drastic decisions too fast. For her to move 16 hours away from home after only knowing you for 3 months was not wise on her part. From the tone of your post it really doesn't sound like the two of you are very compatible and she doesn't sound like a very responsible person. Frankly I'd forget her and move on.

[LettuceBFrank]

From the information that you provided, I don't think that she changed into another person when she moved in with you. You didn't have enough time to know each other in the first place. The person that you lived with is the real her.

You need to take some responsibility in the situation. It seems like you're closing the door without locking it and then scratching your head when she opens it again! Just because she calls you doesn't mean you need to talk to her.

If you jump into a lake and hit your head on a rock because you misjudged the depth, do you do it again or do you find a new place to swim?