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    Aug 11, 2007, 08:22 PM
    Left foolish message online for ex.now confused
    Hello everyone,

    I had not initiated contact with my ex-girlfriend, who broke up with me, for seven weeks, when she started to instant message me everyday for eight days in a row. They were not just brief messages, as we would talk for 30 minutes or an hour at a time.

    She also went way out of her way to see me in person recently, which is the first time we had seen each other since the break-up.

    After I had been drinking the other night, I left an anonymous message on her Facebook account, telling her that I wanted to spoon her. Not too surprisingly, she associated the message with me--as she responded:

    "Gee, I wonder who wrote this one."

    My question is, given her recent influx in communication with me, and the fact that she should have known and now definitely knows that I still have feelings for her, why did she choose to respond to my message at all (as it was anonymous and only she could see it), and why did she respond as she did?

    While I don't want to read too much into typed communication, her response just seems a bit harsh, especially given how much attention she had been giving me lately.

    Thank you.
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    Aug 12, 2007, 06:59 AM
    Actually her response may have been a little bit of sarcastic humor as she probably knew who wrote it but was just "egging you on."
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    Aug 12, 2007, 07:08 AM
    I don't see her response as being that harsh. I see it as more of a "I know it was you" type of thing and possibly looking for a confirmation.

    That being said, I would respond to her, "I'd rather fork you."

    Or you could respond "why would I want to spoon you, and get all the hair from your back in my face."

    She will see neither answer coming and that will make her wonder a little bit about what's going on.
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    Aug 12, 2007, 07:51 AM
    Warn: Don't be drunk while surfing on the Facebook. :D
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    Aug 12, 2007, 08:01 AM
    When we are drunk or intoxicated, we do stupid stuff sometimes.
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    Aug 12, 2007, 08:06 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by s_cianci
    Actually her response may have been a little bit of sarcastic humor as she probably knew who wrote it but was just "egging you on."
    Thank you for your response.

    I know it's hard to judge a one sentence, typed response like that--and was hoping that others might see the possibility of some dry/sarcastic humor.

    I guess my best indication of what she thought of it will come if/when she talks with me next.

    Either way, it's good for me to not look at the response solely as a purely negative one.

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