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MatttLopez · Jul 17, 2007, 02:05 AM

Hello you guys! I have a big problem and one of my friends said that this site maybe could help me. So I sign up! And well, my problem is this:

I'm 18! I'm in collage and I've been dating this girl for a year! I've been truly deeply madly in love with her since the day I've met her (2 years ago). But during the last May and June we had relationship problems and I was feeling very down/bad. So my girlfriend's roommate helped me with that problems. We (me, my girlfriend and her roommate) are very good friends for a long time but since than we've a been closer. So, my relationship problems are gone, and everything was going excellent, until 2 days ago.

2 days ago, I went to pick up my girlfriend to her room, but she wasn't there, the only person who was there was her roommate. So she said that she would arrive soon. So I decided to wait for her! While I was watching TV with her roommate, we began to talk about that time that she helped me, that I was very grateful to her, and we talk talk talk talk and we ended up almost kissing each other (we didn't kiss because my girlfriend arrived).

The next day (yesterday), my girlfriend said that she was going home to visit her parents, and said that was going to stay at home for a week. Meanwhile, I received a message from her roommate that she was having problems with her study (she didn't understand a thing that was going to appear in her exam). So I decided to help her. And I helped her and we began to talk and talk and talk; we started to get closer and we ended up having sex.

My head is so confusing, I have never had sex with my girlfriend, this was my first time. And I'm going crazy about this situation. I don't know who I love anymore. Do I love my girlfriend or her roommate? And the worst thing is that I enjoyed very much the sex with the roommate, but we cannot keep up because I've to respect my girlfriend's feelings. But I thought and maybe I did that because I don't love my g/f and I love her roommate. I DON'T KNOW...

Can you help me please?

amber_gilbert · Jul 17, 2007, 02:59 AM

YOu lte your sexual desire confuse you. You should come clean with your gilfriend, but honestly if I was her I'd never forgive you . She wasn't a very good friendand you weren't a very good boyfriend, what would you be like as a husband someday? I've been cheated on and its one of the most painful things that can ever EVER happen good luck with watever happens

MatttLopez · Jul 17, 2007, 03:24 AM

You are right! Maybe I don't deserve her, maybe she's too good for me. I am really shamed of myself! But in the last month I had dreams about this, and yesterday it happened! What those that means?

Believe me, I do love my g/f. I should never betrayed her, but now I can't avoid it. What should I do?

marie302 · Jul 17, 2007, 10:38 AM

You say you love your girlfriend then I think you should tell her the truth. But first ask yourself when your around your girlfriend what do you feel? And ask the same question about the roommate? Because I think you are in love but you wanted the roommate more for the sex. If you can't stop thinking about the roommate then that answer your question on who your supposed to be with. And don't ever cheat again. Because the worst thing you could to do to someone you love.

MatttLopez · Jul 18, 2007, 08:06 AM

Well... I love my g/f and I don't want to have secrets with her.
Yesterday, I told the roommate that I was going to tell the truth and I ask her why didn't she stop. She said that for me, she would do everything and that just to have sex with me, she would break up a friendly relationship with her roommate. Than she came with the idea to tell my g/f that we did that because I was drunk. And she tried to take my clothes off (she wanted sex again). I told her no, but later when I was thinking on her idea, I started to regret myself for not having sex with her again!

MY GOD! I'm so confused! I started to think that I want to date my girlfriend and want sex with the roommate but this isn't possible! Should I make sex with my girlfriend to try to forget the roommate?

I'm going crazy with this! Help me please

MatttLopez · Jul 18, 2007, 08:25 AM

Well I think that everything is cleared now :)

I called my g/f to tell her what REALLY happened! She started to cry and I told her that if she wanted time apart it would be OK! She said that she loves me so much and that she is going to give me a second chance :) Talking to her made me realise who I love :) And I'm not going to fail again :)

Thanks for everything

marie302 · Jul 18, 2007, 01:44 PM

Well you better stay away from your girlfriend roommate. Far far away. And ihope you know you girl is alwaysgoing to be questioning where have you been? Who you been with. Its going to take her a long long time to forget what happen. She is always going to have it in the back of her mind.
And so are you about the roommate. You still want her. But for the sex. Good luck