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darkness9108 · Jun 26, 2007, 04:06 PM

I am facing a dilemma. My girlfriend and I have been dating for 3 years. We are already making future plans, which I am sure will come true. We also thought about having sex. We have already had oral, but kind of want to "kick it up a notch". I'm worried. I want too, but yet I don't want to put my girlfriend through a pregnancy. I refuse for that to happen. I have considered the following plan: 1) Wear a condom (common sense there) 2) Give at most 5 thrusts.. no more 3) NO ! I know my body well enough to realize when I am even remotely close to that. 4) End with just oral. Any flaws here? All advice is welcome, I just wanted some extra opinions.

danielnoahsmommy · Jun 26, 2007, 04:08 PM

Your 1st time will never end that way. Since you are making "future plans" why not wait till there is no ? As to what to do. You are obviously not ready.

darkness9108 · Jun 26, 2007, 04:14 PM

How can you tell just by reading what I typed? All's I am saying is that I know that sex is a real thing that isn't just a toy. It is really dangerous. I understand that. I am also admitting I am scared. I am scared that if I don't by girlfriend might get angry/upset because I am less of a "man". What do you think?

danielnoahsmommy · Jun 26, 2007, 04:16 PM

Then she is foolish. You appear to be very mature for your age, but doing "it " to please her when you clearly are not ready, would be a mistake. If you were ready you would not be taking the time to second guess yourself here.

darkness9108 · Jun 26, 2007, 04:24 PM

Thanks for your insight. I'm glad you didn't automatically judge me and waited to hear my side before coming to that. I think I will avoid it... and as you said, it seems like a mistake. Thanks a million! I wish you luck in all your future endeavors and may you help other kids like me

danielnoahsmommy · Jun 26, 2007, 04:25 PM

I am glad I can help!

J_9 · Jun 26, 2007, 04:29 PM

You realize that sex, protected or not, can result in pregnancy. If you are not ready to be a parent you are not ready to "kick it up a notch."

1) condoms fail

2) the 5 thrust rule is a myth. One does not have to ejaculate to emit sperm

3) you may know your body, but pre-ejaculate (which you CAN'T feel by the way) contains sperm

Unfortunately, and I am not judging here... there are plenty of flaws. You see birth control is just birth control, not birth prevention. Abstinence is the only 100% foolproof way of not becoming a parent.