I am facing a dilemma. My girlfriend and I have been dating for 3 years. We are already making future plans, which I am sure will come true. We also thought about having sex. We have already had oral, but kind of want to "kick it up a notch". I'm worried. I want too, but yet I don't want to put my girlfriend through a pregnancy. I refuse for that to happen. I have considered the following plan: 1) Wear a condom (common sense there) 2) Give at most 5 thrusts.. no more 3) NO ! I know my body well enough to realize when I am even remotely close to that. 4) End with just oral. Any flaws here? All advice is welcome, I just wanted some extra opinions.

Your 1st time will never end that way. Since you are making "future plans" why not wait till there is no ? As to what to do. You are obviously not ready.

How can you tell just by reading what I typed? All's I am saying is that I know that sex is a real thing that isn't just a toy. It is really dangerous. I understand that. I am also admitting I am scared. I am scared that if I don't by girlfriend might get angry/upset because I am less of a "man". What do you think?

Then she is foolish. You appear to be very mature for your age, but doing "it " to please her when you clearly are not ready, would be a mistake. If you were ready you would not be taking the time to second guess yourself here.

Thanks for your insight. I'm glad you didn't automatically judge me and waited to hear my side before coming to that. I think I will avoid it... and as you said, it seems like a mistake. Thanks a million! I wish you luck in all your future endeavors and may you help other kids like me

I am glad I can help!

You realize that sex, protected or not, can result in pregnancy. If you are not ready to be a parent you are not ready to "kick it up a notch."

1) condoms fail

2) the 5 thrust rule is a myth. One does not have to ejaculate to emit sperm

3) you may know your body, but pre-ejaculate (which you CAN'T feel by the way) contains sperm

Unfortunately, and I am not judging here... there are plenty of flaws. You see birth control is just birth control, not birth prevention. Abstinence is the only 100% foolproof way of not becoming a parent.