[emosis_03]

Hello! Mmm...I need some help with a school homework about marriage. This is a survey I need to do...here are the questions:
1. For you, what is marriage?
2. At what age would you like to get married? Why?
3. What do you think is better for you: living together without any comittment or getting married?
4. What or who would influence in your desicision of getting married at a young age?


Thats all...and sorry if I misspel something...I rarely write in english jiji

Thanks:) :D

[carly381]

1. For you, what is marriage?. The Joining together of two people who love eachover.
2. At what age would you like to get married? Why? Umm 17 because I'm 13 and engaged lol
3. What do you think is better for you: living together without any comittment or getting married? Getting married because although some people describe it as just 'a piece of paper' its acyually a really strong commitment.
4. What or who would influence in your desicision of getting married at a young age? Loving Someone !

[donf]

“Hello! Mmm...I need some help with school homework about marriage. This is a survey I need to do...here are the questions:
1. For you, what is marriage?
2. At what age would you like to get married? Why?
3. What do you think is better for you: living together without any commitment or getting married?
4. What or who would influence in your decision of getting married at a young age?


That's all...and sorry if I misspell something...I rarely write in English jiji”

JiJi,

I have to reach back in history to give some of these answers and they will differ through the years.

First; my wife and I were 18 when we married. Bonnie is from New Rochelle, New York USA. I am from “Da” Bronx, New York City, New York, USA. We met by an orchestrated mistake by our mothers.

My eldest brother, Bill was scheduled to marry on 6 June 1964. My middle brother, Rich, was in the US Marines and stationed at Camp Jejune, North Carolina. Rich was to take leave and come up for the wedding.

Our mothers worked together answering telephones at the New Rochelle Hospital and they had decided that when Rich hit town for the wedding, he would be introduced to Bonnie and from there romance would bloom, followed by marriage. Against this backdrop, fate moved things around a little and then reshuffled the deck.

The Viet Nam war starting to force United States to increase its troop numbers in Viet Nam. When my brother Rich applied for weekend leave, he was denied because he was either to go to school in California or Viet Nam. The Marine Corps did not want to put up with defections, so they froze all leave and liberty requests. That meant I was suddenly substituted for Rich as an usher and Bonnie now had me as her escort. By the way, that was 42 years ago.

1) 1965 - What is marriage to you? I would have my own personal woman and she would serve me the rest of my life. Sex would be whenever I wanted it and wherever we were at that time.

2007 – Marriage is a sharing of our lives as one life. Marriage is being with my best friend, playmate and spousal partner. Marriage is enjoying each other's company as we toddle on through life until life ends. Marriage is helping each other to take care of the mundane tasks like laundry, cooking, cleaning. Marriage is enjoying colorful sunsets in Florida, USA. Marriage is our 40th Anniversary on the island of Antigua in the Caribbean. Marriage is helping my wife deal with the frustrations and miseries that often attack each person. Marriage does never want to hurt your spouse by breaking your marriage vow of fidelity. No one deserves that pain for any reason. Marriage is respecting and cherishing your spouse for what she is and what she believes. Marriage is my lady who still has the softest brown eyes I have ever seen and the gentlest laugh at the worst of my jokes.
2) At what age? At the age of 18, because that is when we married. Why? Because that's when Bonnie called me up and asked if I was doing anything for the upcoming week end. I said no. She asked if I wanted to marry her. I said sure, why not. I don't have any plans, so we traveled to Baltimore, Maryland, USA and eloped.

3) My lady was adamant that there would be no sex until or if we were married, period! There was no bending that rule. Living together was never an option!

4) From the day I met Bonnie at my brothers wedding, I knew this was the lady for me! There was no great, passionate love or music or candles. For me there was a total comfort in her presence. Absolutely no need to impress her. We could find things to laugh over immediately. This young very pretty girl was wearing a blue dress with a big bow at her waist; I was convinced that if I could untie the bow, her dress would just fall off her. To this day, I have never met another lady that fascinates me more then one lady. I cannot see or believe that there could have be other choices to make. I am very blessed that she felt the same way!

Even now where ever or when ever I traveled, I asked my lady to accompany me because for me anywhere I am with her is home, comfort and a great friend. Over the years this lady has encouraged me to go after various positions with IBM, never by force, always by encouragement. This lady has literally nursed me back from death's door after surgeries.

There is a dignity and purpose that seems to radiate out of her and into me at times that helps make me a better person. I could never do anything to hurt her, she just doesn't deserve that behavior and I will not be a source of misery for her. In fact the one cardinal rule I have is that if I'm planning to do anything and I think I can't tell my lady about it, I don't do it. If I'm not sure about it, I call and ask her. If I know I can't call her and ask her, I already know the answer. For me this is a statement of respect for my lady. Something I hope to never lose.