[allicat1994]

When we started dating my parents liked Jonathan but then as time went on they liked him less and less. (They do this with all my bfs) After about five months and my parents had been on my back the entire time I had a mini breakdown and broke up with him. I played happy in front of my parents while going through severe deppression. It has been a year and Jonathan still calls me and helps me with my problems... He is the only one I could ever imagine marrying..

We have been dicussing getting back together but he is in the army and being shipped to korea, this doesn't faze me or change the way I feel.

We are worried if we get back together my parents will never accept him...
IS THERE HOPE?

[Homegirl 50]

How old are the two of you?

[allicat1994]

I'm 18 and he is 19

[joypulv]

Are you living with your parents?
You are at the crossroads of adulthood with all the problems that go with it. You are expecting your parents to like your boyfriends when there is no reason why they should, and you should make the choice of which is more important to you. You can't think about marriage and all that while being dependent on the likes and dislikes of your parents. This is all part of being your own person and making a life that is your own.

[f010244]

Keep in touch with him while he is in Korea. See how things progress, if after he comes back you are still as involved with each other as you describe, then talk to your parents and explain the situation. Ask them for actual reasons they don't like him. Talk to him about those reasons.
If you are old enough (you did not mentioned your age here), then move out if you want to be with this guy so bad.

[Homegirl 50]

Both of you guys are really young. It may all be a different story when he returns. Worry about it then.

If you are still living in your parent's home and they are supporting you, then what they say is important. When you are on your own, the man of your choice is your choice.

[allicat1994]

Thanks everyone... ill be moving out this may after I graduate.
I asked my parents why they didn't like him these were their reasons from last year.
A) Your to young to know what love is. (They got married at 18 and 19)
B) he didn't have a job at the time (He does now)
C) my mother doesn't think he is cute. (What kind of reason is that?)
I asked for their reasons now that he has a job and I'm moving out and my mother just says,
"I dont like him he isnt good enough for you."
So I told her, "He doesnt drink smoke or sleep around, he makes me happy, and im sorry but when i move out i will live my life as i see fit.."
She just told me OK..

[Fr_Chuck]

Most likely they want better for you, most parents do.
His not working is a big issue, and many parents don't care for military, it makes you leave and travel the world, they don't get to see you.

And they should know 18 is too young, since they did it, and know the problems.