[CHRISTINA7]

We started to have feelings we have been messing around for 3 months now and he always wants me close he doesn't want to share me and he has told me before that he wants my care my true care that other girls didn't give him. He had a lot of hard breakups and a very difficult life. And I have always been there for him. Long story short he messes around with other girls and wants something with them and not me. We do have feelings, we kiss and all that and he means it and I asked him before why not me? And plus I get jealous I stopped then once night I met these 2 other girls and yea. Well so we have feelings and we do things and we are close and we are each other around us. Plus he even vents to me about everything people who used to be closer 2 before I came along. We have a great relationship. The thing is that I want him to want me and he does but I want him to really want me and for me to be the only one and everything like that. I was thinking just to be myself and not be jealous because when you do that that's when things fall apart. I just need some help that all. Thanks :-)

[loveless044]

Well I can only say that I see where he is in this situation. I HAD a really close friend that I was close with like that. In my eyes, we were just too close and I could tell him so much stuff almost like he was one of my female friends. Of course we had a physical attraction but I found myself wanting to deal with other guys and often would have a new boyfriend and of course it hurt him because he'd been waiting around for me for what seemed like forever but I didn't want to lose him because he was, like I said, a really great friend. He was there when I needed to be in someone's arms and whenever I needed a sweet kiss but he wanted me to be his girl and I just couldn't do that...

Do you follow me?

Maybe he only sees you for a friend but he doesn't want to lose you. He probably does what you like, such as kisses and hugs to make you feel good. Maybe he doesn't mean to mislead you but seems like that's what's going on. And maybe he just isn't ready for a commitment which I'm sure would be the case if you and him were to become more than what you are.

Try talking to him about how you feel and if he isn't willing to let the relationship be anything more than a mutual friendship then just remain friends if you care about him too much to lose him at all.

Goodluck

[Caisha]

Whatever you decide to do think about how close you are and if things are better this way than in a real relationship. I know it sucks being so close yet so distant but sometimes it's not meant to go to the next level and if you are fine with having that one person to fall back on when no one else understands you you shouldn't complicate it.