[gailcera2]

My husband has become friends with a women in our neighborhood. My husband and her husband were friends first. This women has admitted to her husband, my husband, and me, that she was once in love with my husband. She now says no.

I have seen emails, and text to my husband that says she is still very much in love with him. I know for a fact my husband would not be physically attracted to this women, he likes her because they have a lot in common.

My problem with her is she is always texting him, (12 am to 2am), also in her emails and texts, she always has to put little comments in like, "love you, miss you, thinking about you a lot". Hello... She also is good friends with our son. Hes 15, she is 51...

My husband gets furious with me when I say, "IS THAT ----- again?". I don't want to tell him who he can be friends with, but it seems as if he wants her friendship over our marriage. I am about ready to flip out on this women. HELP

[JudyKayTee]

This woman owes you nothing - she doesn't owe you loyalty or fidelity or honesty.

Your husband, on the other hand, made vows to you.

HE'S the only one who can stop her behavior. You can't make anyone do what they don't want to do. The knowledge that her behavior upsets you should be enough for him to tell the woman "enough is enough." It's platonic and she puts "love you, miss you, thinking of you" in emails and texts?

As long as he's showing the messages to you maybe he doesn't take her seriously. If you are snooping and find them - well, be prepared to deal with what you find/uncover/discover. She 51 and "good friends" with a 15 year old and no one has a problem with that? What exactly does "good friends" mean?

I was "once in love" with a couple of people. I don't text, call, contact them and on the rare occasion when I see one of them I don't include "loving" and "missing" in our conversation.

I also would never attempt to guess/judge any man's taste in women. You never know.

Flip out on her? The person you need to talk to - not flip out at - is your husband. It's not picking his friends when the behavior is inappropriate and he doesn't seem to think so.

I would be very straight forward with him - what's going on here?

For that matter - why are they in daily contact? I like my neighbors but...

[liongal]

Wholeheartedly agree with above comment. Not right what your Husband is allowing to happen... not right at all.

[talaniman]

Its not her fault your husband allows her to come on so strong. That's who you should be talking to, but I have to add, maybe he is nice to his friends wife, but not knowing how close they are its only a guess.

Does your husband know you have seen those emails of which you speak, if so, I wouldn't worry about it, or make this a bigger issue than it is. And why would you feel threatened?

[JudyKayTee]

I have to wonder where the woman's husband is (or where his head is!) while she's best friends with a 15-year old AND pursuing someone else's husband - ?