[TCharanza]

Yes, I know it sounds horrible but its true. Here is my story. When I first met my husband he was alone, but the second time I can recall meeting him, he was with his friend. Then we weren't serious and even then his friend caught my eye but I really liked my now husband but then date so I didn't think anything about the small look I felt towards his friend. Soon afterwards one thing lead to another and me and my then boyfriend became live in partners. We stayed together for 3 yrs and then I became pregnant and had a baby and then two more came and now we are at 7 years into our relationship. My husbands friend has been around through out my whole relationship with my husband, he was there the day my daughters were born, he was there for my baby shower, my daughters BDays the day I first moved into our home. He had seen a lot and probubly knows me and my husbands relationship better than I do. He has witness my husband cheating on me too and has seen even more things I'm sure that I don't know about my husband. About 5 years into our relationship I caught my husband in a hotel with another girl and I was devistated. For some reason the first place I went was over to his friends house to call my mother. And for the whole time in me and my husbands relationship I never had any feelings for his friend but here recently I feel strong feelings for him I think I have fallen in love with him. I want to be with him and make love with him but I am not sure about the situation. But here is the crazy part about a few years ago, a few years before I developed strong feelings for my husbands friend, my husbands friends wife told me she got a little jelious when I came around because she thought that her husband was always looking at me, she also said that she had a dream about us together having sex. At the time I thought it was funny, because at the time I didn't have any feelings about her husband I was perfectly happy with mine. About a year later that, still before I developed feelings for my husbands friend, I dreamed twice that we were together sexually and finally my husband has had dreams about us together. The weird part is, these dreams took place years before now, and I just recently have developed strong feelings for him. Am I picking up on his energy. Is this meant to be that we meet. I have tried to keep the feelings that I feel for him locked up inside but they just keeping growing and now I actually feel like holding back and hiding what Im feelings in actually making me physically sick. I want to let go and make a move on him and I could probubly do what I feel and move on with my husband happily but I am afraid. I am afraid that what I am feeling is all in my head and I am afraid of embarrising myself and then my husbands friend getting offensive. What do you think I should do. Go with my passion instincts, people say let your heart lead the way or should I forget about him

[youcantstop48]

Well I agree with letting your heart lead the way, I had the same situation with me and my ex wife but I left before I did anything!! Ru sure that your happy with your husband because the way I look at it if you were then you wouldn't be there thinking about all this with another man, so you might want to really think about that, is there anyway you could like go away maybe spend some time by urslef? This is how I figured my feelings out when I left

[Sweet_Leaf]

I've been there and done that so feeling the need to give you my answer!
In my case I actually fell in love with my husbands best friend who was really 'our' best friend. He had a fiancée and us four were very close but then he left her and moved in with us, so us three were the best of friends for about 9 months and did everything together, anyway, the way I went about it was completely wrong and I messed that up completely so I don't want you to do the same, I had been with my partner since I was 15 (8years) and I cheated on him for about 4 months then ended up moving out with the friend, we destroyed what we had which was a wonderful thing! Although I am happy now I wish I'd done it a differnent way, I'm working through things with my ex and trying to be friends and he is very good about it but understandibly he doesn't want anything to do with the frined! So basically what I'm saying is, if you are sure, and please make sure you are sure!! Then by all means break up with your husband and maybe then after you and the friend may work out who knows, but don't hurt your husband like I did and don't break him and his wife up just wait and see...

[s_cianci]

You mentioned that your husband's friend has a wife, so he's off limits. Hands off!