X Girlfriend is Back in Contact - CONFUSED what do I do?
Ok, so I went 8 months with no contact with a woman who broke up with me after 2 years of dating with no fights biggest problem was a long distance commute of 4 hours that we neither of us could do anything about at the time and her desire to move to a different part of the country. So she broke my heart last fall and did my best not to contact her.
I really loved her and wanted the best for her, that's how it was left.
Then about a month ago I received a call from her asking about a few of her things she wanted to track down before she moved. We ended talking on the phone a few times and then finally coordinated a meeting. We met and had a nice time, despite nervousness on
both our parts, we went on a boat ride and then she asked me if I
wanted to do dinner, so we did. Afterwards we grabbed some icecream and
went for a walk. We just did a lot of catching up and she reminisced
about a lot of good times we shared. And she also talked a lot about the
stress in her life, she's sold the house, gave notice to leave her job,
and she's had no luck finding an out of state job, and now looking at
returning to school. When we left I gave her her things in a box and I
added a 4 leaf clover I found and framed in with her things, because.
It was the only way I could think of telling her how I felt, thinking
she was going to be moving away. Right before we left she brought up
that her family was going on the same fishing trip they went on last
summer and said if I was interested, she was sure they'd love to have
me.. Then we hugged good bye and I went home confused.
A couple days latter I got a text thanking me for the good luck clover and she said it was
nice to see me. A couple days latter she texting me to thank me for
a picture that I left in her car that the boat cruise people took.. A
few weeks had gone by and I remembered her saying she'd be home last
weekend, so I texted her. And she text me back saying I was more then
welcome to join her family for her dad's annual birthday party cookout, I
declined as I had other plans. But Sunday I drove up to see her and
pick up a bike she had wanted to give me. It was an odd day, her sister
called me to ask to play in a volleyball tournament with them. I got
there an ended up watching them play for about 5 hours, talking to her in
between matches. She brought up the clover and I told her I gave it
to her because sometimes what I want to say gets lost in words.
Earlier they had invited me to join there family for dinner, but during the
matches she told me if I was bored I could leave and grab the bike, but
it was up to me. Afterward I went back to her mom and dad's farm and
was greeted with a big hug from her mom and her other sisters. And her
nieces and nephews were all over me. We went out to dinner and it felt
like old times with the family, like the didn't know things had
changed between us, and in some respects it felt the same way with her, we
were eating off each others plates and playing with her nephew. And her
sisters had thought her little niece how to say me name. The only thing
that bothered me was she seemed distant, I felt like she wasn't excited
to be around me and she hardly looked me in the eye, it was almost
like she felt bad because of the way everyone loved seeing me. At the end
of the night her mom invited me to stay over and I kept telling her I
had to get back, but she kept insisting, and I declined as I felt
uncomfortable as hell. When we got back to my car she just told me to drive
safe and hugged me good bye in front of everyone and that was it. I felt like I had
something to say to her but never got the chance, what exactly I wanted
to say I don't know. Driving home I was sad because I realized just how
much I missed being with her family and her. What's your take on the
situation? Is she just nervous to bring things out in the open? Who
welcomes an x-boyfriend on a week long trip with her family? And why
would her family welcome me like that, because it was if they hadn't know
we were broken up? All I know is I miss her and am now more confused
then ever. She had to have known I wasn't driving all the way up there
to just pick up a bike. Do you think she still has feeling for me? Do
you think she was warming up to me and I pushed her away again by
showing her I cared. Something just doesn't seem right. What do I do now?
Wait for her to call?
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