[brokenheartls]

This isn't something you can help her with. You can give her support while she gets the help she needs and works through the hurt, pain, and trauma. She needs to talk to a professional who is trained to handle the emotional storms that blow-up when someone is working through sexual abuse. Someone who is not emotionally involved. Someone who is used to having all of the anger and pain directed at him/her when it can't be directed at the abuser.

Depending on how much hurt and anger at the past is still inside her, it could months or years before she is ready for a healthy sex life. Are you ready to face that future? That is what we mean by taking care of her needs. She may not be able to emotionally or physically handle yours for quite awhile.

I wish she went to a pro... Im really worried about her... I told her that I'm going to wait and that its not a big deal... But that she should also fix the problem...

Thanks for the help all!

[Cat1864]

Has she given you any reasons she doesn't want to talk to a counselor?