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    #101

    Mar 12, 2007, 05:08 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by TESTER2799
    I've also met this girl.. I missed a lot of stuff from life during all these 8 years with her.. This is my time now!
    I'm so glad you've left miss cruel heart behind, but please don't jump right into a rebound relationship. You need some time to regain your center and find an emotional equilibrium within yourself. Without doing that, you will likely repeat the pattern and spread the heartache around. Neither you nor rebound girl deserves it, so go slow and be careful.
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    #102

    Mar 12, 2007, 06:00 AM
    Don't worry my friend.. She is the one who moved into a relationship before we even split-up for good..
    I am 26.. I am not 18 and I know what's the best for me now..
    First meet new friends.. re-unite with old friends.. Build my life..
    And whatever good comes, enjoy! Right? :)
    Of course I don't want to hurt myself, or hurt this girl like the b***h hurt me..
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    #103

    Mar 13, 2007, 06:41 AM
    I have news guys..

    She sent me the following message:

    "Nichola, sorry for writing to you but can we really not be friends? We said that we will always be here for each other whatever happens.. I know you hate me and its your right to feel like that, but if you choose not to talk to me again I will understand.. You will always be my best friend"

    2 hours before the message, I wrote an email to her sister, asking her to tell Kathryn some things I wanted to say.. When I got this message from her, I forwarded the same email to Kathryn (Her sister's name is Anna):

    "Hi Anna,

    Sorry to bother you from here, but I do know that you are talking with K almost everyday, therefore I would like you to tell her something!
    I don't want to talk with her, simply because everytime we contact each other, I want to kill myself! This is too painful..
    I am trying to move on here Anna.. I am meeting new people (males and females), I am reuniting with my old friends.. I am trying to build my life here all over again.

    It's not that I am ignoring her. I know (because I really know her) that she thinks I am playing a game or something here. This is not true. I am moving on with my life without her.
    I am NOT playing hard to get or whatever she thinks right now.. I am moving on Anna.. Please make sure she understands that. I am not a game anymore.

    Please tell her that I am ok, I am happy (at least I think I am), and that she doesn't need to worry about me. I hate her little games she is playing with me.. But this doesn't make any difference.
    Please make sure that she is careful on her decisions. I know this is her life, but she is doing things that I can't really believe.. This is NOT K! This is not her.. Please take good care of her because I know she needs your advice and your experience..
    I do love her Anna.. its been 8 years! But that's all.. Everything has changed (including myself)..
    And I was clear with her from the beginning.. "If you tell me to move on, then I will move on, and there is no way to come back".. I really mean that!
    I was honest with her, and I don't think she understands that..

    Sorry for bothering you Anna.. But I can't talk with her anymore..

    Thank you for everything you've done for me during all these years.."


    When my ex read the email, she wrote me 3 more messages without getting any replies from me:

    "You will have to talk to me sometime"

    "I am sorry, I will disappear so you can move on.. This is what you deserve. I will pay for everything I've done for you Nicholas, I swear. I am not me anymore, and you deserve better anyway... I will miss you.. Take care of yourself always x x x"

    "I will really miss you.. I hope that we meet again some day.."


    This thing is killing her.. Oh well.. I am stronger than ever now..
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    #104

    Mar 13, 2007, 07:16 AM
    I left a bit out! Now move on and block her email etc so u can't here from her again.
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    #105

    Mar 13, 2007, 07:44 AM
    You did very well, excellent mail to the sister, really good.
    That way she knows you are not playing games or hard to get(which I thought you were doing)
    Everything is clear , very good and honest.
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    #106

    Mar 13, 2007, 08:38 AM
    All you have to do is move on now.

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