[whatisthis3]

See, so if she does become possessive of me, she would want to be exclusive wouldn't she?

But she is starting to talk a lot with this one other guy..

[Homegirl 50]

See, so if she does become possessive of me, she would want to be exclusive wouldn't she?

but she is starting to talk a lot with this one other guy..

No it means she does not want you to play with anyone but her. In a word, selfish.
You are one of her toys.
If I were you, I'd leave her completely alone and date someone who does not play games.

[talaniman]

Originally Posted by whatisthis3
See, so if she does become possessive of me, she would want to be exclusive wouldn't she?

But she is starting to talk a lot with this one other guy..

No! She just doesn't want any one else playing with her toys, and if she is talking to another guy, haven't you seen that pattern of behavior before?? Sure you have, that other guy was YOU, not too long ago!!

But this time, she doesn't have to dump you, just be less available.

[whatisthis3]

Wait me be less available, or her be less available?

[Enigma1999]

wait me be less available, or her be less available?

You.

You are making this way too easy for her and she is has control of this whole situation.

Keep your distance!

[Homegirl 50]

She is toying with you. She has no intention of dating you. She wants to play the field before she goes to college and you are one of her play things.

[whatisthis3]

I don't get it.
Is she playing games with me?
I tried flirting with her, and she played hard to get or something, and my flirting didn't work, she just gave me bad responses.
And the day before that, she asked phone tonight? And I said nah I'm too tired, and she was like haha okay! And I was like k Ill see you tomorrow, and she said night :)

Like Idk. It seems like she's not getting affected by my playing games. I think I;m going to distance myself from her.. and see if she chases me. If she doesn't I know she wasn't worth it.

And yesterday, I was like lets quiz each other later, (like on the phone) and she was like haha OK but I need to really cram! Ttyl!

And she never texted me or called me. Is she playing games? If she is how do I win.

[Homegirl 50]

She has gotten a new toy.
Leave her alone. Don't beg for attention.

[whatisthis3]

Yeah so I talked to her, told her everything about how I lied and wanted to be exclusive, I gave up kind of

And She said lets just be friends
I agreed.
But I'm planning on doing no contact. She expects us to be friends soon, since we wanted no emotional attachment just so we wouldn't lose our friendship. But I don't know, like I'd want to be friends too, but it seems like I'd just give her what she wants.

[Homegirl 50]

She wants friends with benefits but only on her terms.
The best thing for you to do is to leave her alone entirely.

[whatisthis3]

What if she comes to me and tells me she misses me

[Homegirl 50]

Tell her it is nice to be missed.
Don't worry about what her next move will be, or her liking you.
We all told you before what this girl was about and you were just determined that she wanted to be with you.

She may call you if she has no one else to play with. You do what you need to do for you, don't worry about her.
Leave her alone or you are going to end up hurt.

[whatisthis3]

Thanks homegirl for being with me on this whole thing, you helped me a lot.

If we ever do start talking again, I will make sure she's not set on having no relationships

[Homegirl 50]

You're welcomed.
I think this girl will probably tell you what she thinks you want to hear to keep you in her clutches. I think she is a waste of time!
I'm sure there are plenty of nice girls out there that don't have so much drama attached to them.

[whatisthis3]

When she told me I was like asking her if we could start being friends right away, maybe even bestfriends
But I still haven't talked to her, and I plan on not doing so until it doesn't hurt when I think about her being with someone else.

But it does still, how does one get over that

[Homegirl 50]

There is no pat answer, it takes time.
You take one day at a time, get out and do things with your friends. You will find that you think less of her each day.

[whatisthis3]

Homegirl 50, I reread all your posts.
You are a genius.
Almost every single post, especially on pages 6-8 all are and came true.
I want to give you 100 rep points.

[Homegirl 50]

I'm glad I could help you young man.
You are going to be just fine.
Have a great week. OK

One point will be just fine :)

[whatisthis3]

It's so hard dealing with the fact that she's starting to like someone else. Already. Is he a rebound? Or does she truly like this guy?

I mean, if she just said lets just be friends, I'd be so OK right now. But the fact that she's already getting to know someone else, so quickly, really bothers me. I guess it's jealousy and frustration, but I don't really know how to deal with it. Like I talked to this guy last week, just to see what was up, and I kind of implied for him to back off, and he said he would try his best, but I don't really think he did. And it really does kind of get to me.

[Homegirl 50]

Would you be saying "she's starting to like someone else. Already. Is he a rebound? or does she truly like this guy?" if it was you she was seeing? Probably not.

I don't think she liked you as much as you like her from the beginning, she was flirting and playing around with you, but she was cheating on her boyfriend. Now she can flirt and mess around with anyone she wants and she does not have to worry about cheating.

She wants to play the field, or she may have been playing around with this guy while she was playing with you and she likes him.
Who knows but now you see she didn't leave him for you, she left him because she wanted her freedom.

Don't let him or her get to you. He can date her, she is a free girl and she is not worth your getting upset over.
You'll be OK. One day you will look back on this and say "man I can believe I let that girl get to me like that"