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none12345 · Apr 2, 2009, 06:11 PM

Originally Posted by Nestorian

Funny, mine said i was the 99Th post. haha. In yo face-book, wait... What??:p What eve.

I'm ok, need to get my brain working again, it's in tired mode.:eek: You mean there is another Mode??!!!:p Yeah, thats me. I'd explain it as being like caboose off of Red Vs Blue, YouTube - RVB - The Best of Caboose Season 4 and 5

I've bin trying to play my guitar. And i'm trying to get a lot of government who ha worked out so they will pay me for being ill, but other than that, i listen to music, read what ever, and try to go to the gym every so often.
So i guess you could say, life is interesting.

How about you None?? Whats your new story?

Well Nes, I've been holding my ground lately, and I'm stronger now. Im starting to feel like life can be beautiful again if I let it be. Its almost the summer and I don't feel as depressed anymore. Lol. I still miss my ex and I think I still have some sort of feelings for her I'm not sure what they are anymore. Kind of guilt, love, confused, anger, disgust all mixed together but I think I've finally accepted its over now and I'm taking each day at a time =P.

I just got back from class. I was talking to this girl that sat next to me and I don't even feel guilty anymore now because I'm not with anyone. Didn't get to know her name oh well I won't see her again because today is the last day of classes but oh well... lol there are other girls out there plus she wasn't my type if you know what I mean =P I've been basically have a lot of time now. I was playing my guitar yesterday lol trying to start up my passion again. When I was with my ex I never got a chance to play it becaucse I always had to keep her compnay. Actually I stopped playing because of her because I never had time but now I do =P. Been playing for 9 years now ever since I was 10 lol.

Im trying to pass some time now and improve myself. I think I'm going to start going to the gym again to work out lol and start eating again because I've lost like 10 pounds because of the break up >_< I feel so skinny now lol and maybe after the exams ill go to the book store and start a novel. School is almost over and I'm going back to mny home town soon. I go to a university away from home and I live on residence if I haven't told you. I actually came here for her... so we can be closer but no point dwelling in that anymore.So yah I'm going home soon can't wait to have mom's cooking again after all the junk food I've been eating here every single day lol. Can't wait to stay up all night playing video games with my sis and can't wait to just go to the bar and have a few drinks with my buddies from back home =P

So yah that's what's new with me Nes lol XD but yah don't get me wrong this aren't exactly better yet, their just starting to get better and I do still miss my ex and occasionally think of what could have been if me and her were together. But the trust is broken now and I can't be with her anymore. But yup lol

pandabear13 · Apr 2, 2009, 06:55 PM

OK I believe that true love is worth fighting for because I am fighting for my true love right now... so if any of you want to talk to me because I need someone to talk to him then write me... PLEASE and NONE she isn't worth waiting for trust me I am a girl and I would know! I have done the same thing to a guy that she is doing to you... really she isn't worth waiting for.

wmorales · Apr 2, 2009, 07:05 PM

I Believe That If U Really L0ve A Special S0me And Think That Y0u T00 C0uld P0ssibly Be Together In The FAR Future Then Fight For It But If The Other Person Isn't Guna Love U Back T0 Us Ful Potential Then Im S0ry But The Best Thing Is T0 Let It G0... Its Just N0t W0rth It If Ur N0t Guna Be L0ved As Much As U Deserv

none12345 · Apr 2, 2009, 07:07 PM

Originally Posted by pandabear13

ok i believe that true love is worth fighting for because i am fighting for my true love right now...so if any of you wanna talk to me because i need someone to talk to him then write me...PLEASE and NONE she isnt worth waiting for trust me i am a girl and i would know!! i have done the same thing to a guy that she is doing to you...really she isnt worth waiting for.

Hey panda, I'm not quite sure what you're trying to say. You read my story on the other thread? O_O you just said you believe true love is worth fighting for so are you telling me its worth fighting for but than you tell me she's not worth waiting? That kind of contradicts. What do you mea you're a girl and you would know? How? O_O You've done the same thing to a guy? But that puts us in different positions. I am that guy and you were on the other end. What do you mean? Maybe the love I shared with her isn't true love. That's why its not worth fighting for?

Nestorian · Apr 2, 2009, 09:09 PM

Originally Posted by pandabear13

ok i believe that true love is worth fighting for because i am fighting for my true love right now...so if any of you wanna talk to me because i need someone to talk to him then write me...PLEASE and NONE she isnt worth waiting for trust me i am a girl and i would know!! i have done the same thing to a guy that she is doing to you...really she isnt worth waiting for.

Hey Panda,

Nestorian here, part time jedi, just plain old nut the rest. ;) Haha. Sorry read back in the posts you'll get it.

What do you mean by you are fighting for your true love? We need some information. And why should we talk to your true love? I mean we could but, why are we talking to them and not you? After all it seems to be your life that is being so effected...

So if you just give us more detail about your sistuation, and explian in depth what the problem seems to be. We'd all be more than happy to give "our Two cents". Talaniman is really great with information and what not, I recoment talking to Talaniman and listening very closely too.

May Peace and Kindness be with you.

Nestorian · Apr 2, 2009, 09:13 PM

Originally Posted by none12345

hey panda, im not quite sure what you're trying to say. you read my story on the other thread? O_O you just said you believe true love is worth fighting for so are you telling me its worth fighting for but than you tell me she's not worth waiting? that kind of contradicts. what do you mea you're a girl and you would know? how? O_O You've done the same thing to a guy? but that puts us in different positions. i am that guy and you were on the other end. what do you mean? maybe the love i shared with her isnt true love. thats why its not worth fighting for?

She is telling you that she knows what the girl is doing and she knows what she it thinking, and that she is playing you. By the sounds of your story. And that she needs some one to talk to her True love because she is not playing him, but "her" true love is a guy and guys don't play those kinds of games, or something along that.

Ok so that is all just a shot in the dark from the details. I hope I'm not tooo far off.;)

Talk to you all later eh, got to go see a movie. I hope it's a gooder. Peace.

pandabear13 · Apr 2, 2009, 09:14 PM

Hey... im sorry I realized that I typed that wrong... but if you want to go and read my post and help me out... there were people on there cutting me down but if you don't read the actual one that I typed but reread the one that I have in the comment section and you will understand maybe

PirandelloLuigi · Apr 2, 2009, 09:43 PM

I believe in fighting till the end if you love them. If you did everything you could do, that's all that matters. If they respond or not that's their prerogative. I wish I could go back and erase the arguments we had. Unfortunately life does not permit this.

If they love you they will forgive. If they don't , accept it and move on and learn from this. But always fight till the end. Forget your ego, or you might regret it later on in life.

none12345 · Apr 2, 2009, 10:11 PM

Originally Posted by PirandelloLuigi

i believe in fighting till the end if you love them. if you did everything you could do, that's all that matters. If they respond or not that's their prerogative. I wish i could go back and erase the arguments we had. Unfortunately life does not permit this.

If they love you they will forgive. if they don't , accept it and move on and learn from this. But always fight till the end. Forget your ego, or you might regret it later on in life.

Okay. That's what I believe too. Screw the pride or ego or w.e if you're going to regret it later on in life. What do you mean fight till the end? When is it the end? How do you know it's the end?

PirandelloLuigi · Apr 2, 2009, 10:43 PM

Originally Posted by none12345

Okay. Thats what i believe too. Screw the pride or ego or w.e if you're going to regret it later on in life. What do you mean fight till the end? when is it the end? how do you know its the end?

When your near the end you can feel her slipping away. She will talk different, cold, distant, confused. You got to try to talk some sense into her. Then leave and let her miss you. But never accuse her or blame her for the problems in the relationship. Accept you made mistakes and take the blame.

none12345 · Apr 2, 2009, 11:08 PM

Originally Posted by PirandelloLuigi

When your near the end you can feel her slipping away. She will talk different, cold, distant, confused. you gotta try to talk some sense into her. Then leave and let her miss you. But never accuse her or blame her for the problems in the relationship. Accept you made mistakes and take the blame.

I've already feel distant when is started NC 2 weeks ago and she is cold and confused. Its not time to break NC to talk some sense into her. She's already picked another guy...

teastalk · Apr 3, 2009, 12:21 AM

I've thought about it, and I believe that you have to:

Let them know how you feel. Even if you think they know that you love them. You might as well say it plain: "I still love you and I still want to be with you, please let us try it over."

Apologize for whatever you think caused you to break up so that you can be sure that they know that you're willing to accept that you made mistakes. Let them know that you're willing to make things right.

If that fails... it's time to let go. You tried your best. There shouldn't be anything left to regret about the end.

kctiger · Apr 3, 2009, 05:52 AM

Originally Posted by teastalk

I've thought about it, and I believe that you have to:

Let them know how you feel. Even if you think they know that you love them. You might as well say it plain: "I still love you and I still want to be with you, please let us try it over."

Apologize for whatever you think caused you to break up so that you can be sure that they know that you're willing to accept that you made mistakes. Let them know that you're willing to make things right.

If that fails... it's time to let go. You tried your best. There shouldn't be anything left to regret about the end.

Wrong... wrong... and WRONG! First and lastly, the "Apologize" thing is absolutely inaccurate. A LOT of times, when someone breaks up with you, it isn't YOUR fault, so just flat out apologizing for you being yourself and them not being happy with it, is absolute garbage! Relationships are a two way street. Very rarely is it just one person's fault that it ended. Don't lower yourself just because you didn't want something to end.

none12345 · Apr 3, 2009, 09:59 AM

Originally Posted by kctiger

Wrong...wrong...and WRONG! First and lastly, the "Apologize" thing is absolutely inaccurate. A LOT of times, when someone breaks up with you, it isn't YOUR fault, so just flat out apologizing for you being yourself and them not being happy with it, is absolute garbage! Relationships are a two way street. Very rarely is it just one person's fault that it ended. Don't lower yourself just because you didn't want something to end.

KC is right. And by the way I tried all of those and now I'm in NC. APOLOGIZING DOES NOT WORK!! You're just giving them the power and if they take you back you ll always be on their leash. I've learned its time to move on now. Dude trust me I tried everything in the book to get her back but it just doesn't work so I'm in NC now ready to move on

PirandelloLuigi · Apr 3, 2009, 10:04 AM

Originally Posted by kctiger

Wrong...wrong...and WRONG! First and lastly, the "Apologize" thing is absolutely inaccurate. A LOT of times, when someone breaks up with you, it isn't YOUR fault, so just flat out apologizing for you being yourself and them not being happy with it, is absolute garbage! Relationships are a two way street. Very rarely is it just one person's fault that it ended. Don't lower yourself just because you didn't want something to end.

It depends if you know you did some wrong things, acknowledging them and apologizing for them shows you are sincere and want to work things out, but if you did'nt do anything wrong then you should not apologize. I admit I was being a jerk sometimes with her, she was also wrong in some situations. Nobody is perfect. We all make mistakes and admitting our mistakes takes guts and you got to put your pride aside for a moment. If It's always your fault and she left you and you are always to blame, there is a big problem and you got to try to solve it with her.

kctiger · Apr 3, 2009, 10:06 AM

Actions speak louder than words. Apologizing for ANYTHING is truly meaningless unless you have the actions to back it up. Relationship problems arrise from a LONG line of things that are going on, so it isn't like a light switch where you can just apologize, correct your actions and be done with it...

I couldn't care less about an apology. I want to know what you are going to do to fix the behavior that warranted the said apology.

none12345 · Apr 3, 2009, 10:07 AM

Originally Posted by PirandelloLuigi

It depends if you know you did some wrong things, acknowledging them and apologizing for them shows you are sincere and want to work things out, but if you did'nt do anything wrong then you should not apologize. I admit i was being a jerk sometimes with her, she was also wrong in some situations. Nobody is perfect. We all make mistakes and admitting our mistakes takes guts and you gotta put your pride aside for a moment. if It's always your fault and she left you and you are always to blame, there is a big problem and you got to try to solve it with her.

The only thing I did wrong was being too clingy, nothing more and I don't feel like I should apologize for that because that's who I am and there is nothing seriously wrong with that and maybe for trying too hard to get her back.

none12345 · Apr 3, 2009, 10:10 AM

Originally Posted by kctiger

Actions speak louder than words. Apologizing for ANYTHING is truly meaningless unless you have the actions to back it up. Relationship problems arrise from a LONG line of things that are going on, so it isn't like a light switch where you can just apologize, correct your actions and be done with it...

I couldn't care less about an apology. I want to know what you are going to do to fix the behavior that warranted the said apology.

You promise change but by that time she won't be willing to gve you a chance for you to show them you really can and so its time to move on and let her go. And I don't think you should change for anyone because that means you're not yourself and there are plenty of people out there who would love to be with you for who you are.

PirandelloLuigi · Apr 3, 2009, 10:13 AM

Originally Posted by none12345

The only thing i did wrong was being too clingy, nothing more and i dont feel like i should apologize for that because thats who i am and there is nothing seriously wrong with that and maybe for trying too hard to get her back.

Then I suggest you stop the being clingy, take a few steps back, let her get tired of the rebound guy, and give her some space and time. If she loves you she will miss you and come back. Keep doing NC. She will wonder what you are doing and if you are seeing other girls. Mine asked me this right away, cause some girls on Facebook wrote that they had a good time with me when we were out at the club. Her friends must have saw that on Facebook and told her. But I told her I am not seeing anyone and my heart is still here with you. I do not know what will happen, but we are going to take it slowly, But like you said earlier, not put all my energy in this and don't have too much hope or I'll get hurt again.

teastalk · Apr 11, 2009, 04:11 PM

Originally Posted by kctiger

Wrong...wrong...and WRONG! First and lastly, the "Apologize" thing is absolutely inaccurate. A LOT of times, when someone breaks up with you, it isn't YOUR fault, so just flat out apologizing for you being yourself and them not being happy with it, is absolute garbage! Relationships are a two way street. Very rarely is it just one person's fault that it ended. Don't lower yourself just because you didn't want something to end.

I can see where you are coming from on this.

I also just wanted to say that some might end up with regrets if they don't try all they can in order to bring the relationship back. Who knows if the ex will say, "I wanted you to try harder, your attempts seemed lackluster."

Then on the other hand, I could also say, "no one wants a girlfriend or boyfriend who makes you try until you're exhausted and are crying tears of blood."