[kazzz]

One was a relationship,then he had break up and had drunken thumble and has now got two wonderful sons.

[J_9]

Okay, 2 different mothers. Kazzz, dear, this is another red flag. Apparently he was cheating. Would you want to be a single mother of his 3rd child? No, probably not.

[kazzz]

I'm not that stupid,plus I can't ave kids,so no worries there.

[kazzz]

If u all get sick of me on ere just say.my mum has had enough of me going on about it and looking for meanings in every think.theres no room in this house me to b depressed

[kazzz]

I'm thankful 4 all the advice given,really I am,and I no wots got to be done,I just don't know how.
I think I need to hear from sumone that has been on coke and got off it and got there life back.

[kazzz]

Anyone got a time machine I could borrow

[J_9]

Kazzz, you don't know it, but you may already be talking to people who are sober and clean addicts.

You may not be aware that some of the advice being given to you may be given by former addicts.

You say you know what has to be done, but don't know how. Get a counselor, someone who knows how to help you face to face, go to Narc Anon (which has alredy been suggested quite a few times)

[kazzz]

I feel stupid going to sum where like that.and knowing my luck he would probably be there.

[kazzz]

OK,so any former addicts here, did u regret everythink u did when using and did u ever say sorry to those u hurt.

[J_9]

You may or may not get an answer to that question Kazzz, there are some people who may not want others to know their pasts because the past is behind them. They may choose to live for the future, but not the past.

[sublime5373]

how do i help someone addicted to coke that one day wants help and the next day dont want help. its killing me to see the love of my life killing himself. he says he loves me and wants to be with me but at the moment were not together coz he says he dont like himself and doesn't want me to see him in that way.he is my first love and i am his so i can't just walk away but its hurting so much to not, really dont know wot to do anymore.

Hey.. if he love you he will come back... but remember he needs to love himself first... he also needs love and support.. you can tell him to choose coke or you... I know how hard it is to loose the love of your life... tell him... but if he does not take control now you are going to loose... 1 way or another... by him being out of your life or he will be 6 feet under and out of your life. And that is something you do not need to be around ether... if he gets busted you are going to go down with him and it will be with you for the rest of your life... and if he needs the drugs bad enough he will do dumb things that can also hurt you... just always remember that there is other fish in the sea and you can still fish if you need to...

[kazzz]

Thanks,I ave told him and I know I ave hurt him with the things I ave said but he deserved them and it made me feel beta.funny thing is, is that I'm OK with not being with him because I lost myself with him and ave got the opportunity to sort out my own life. I just want him to be happy to.

[kazzz]

J-9 I under stand that but,none of this was my fault so surely if he does love me and gets clean I can be the future,if that makes sense.

[sublime5373]

Honey you are young and if he loves you he need to clean himself up... and he can not love anyone until he loves himself first!! Don't keep your mind on him... look for someone else... ask your parent's how they feel about what he is doing... if you have not gotten your stuff from him just remember that it CAN all be replaced.

[kazzz]

The things he has got can't be replaced,my mum feels that he will sort himself out,and hold his hands up and say sorry.
I never looked to meet him when I did.I ave never looked to meet sumone because I think about things to deeply,and great believer in destiny and fait and stuff.
And believe that I will meet the right person at the right time etc. and thought I had met the one

[kazzz]

Can't sleep so thought I would give a quick message.
Bet your all bored of giving me the same advice

[kazzz]

does it really get easier with time to forget about sum one.

[J_9]

Hun, time is the healer of all wounds. Yes, there may be scars left behind, but the wounds are healed. It does get better with time. Believe me.

[kazzz]

Thanks, I really hope your right.

[isabelle]

Kazz I may have missed this in a post but may I ask? How old are you? You sound very young.