[MedicBoy]

I hate to pose the possibility, but it also could be she caught an STD from the last boyfriend. This would explain her sexual reluctance.

[LoveJones]

Ok, so My girlfriend and I dated for 2 years, we broke up for about a year and just strated talking again... its been about 3 months. We have been doing the typical dating stuff, going out, to dinners, shopping etc. She dumped me to go out with some other guy, that obviously didn't work out. She came back to me telling me how she messed up and wants to make things right
However, when it comes to the intimacey part Im at a loss for words. We have ONLY kissed and every time I mention sex... she either can't stay over, tells me she's on her period, or her stomach hurts. This girl use to starv for attention and want sex from me ALL the time the first time we dated. I TOTALLY feel rejected by her emotionally and physically. If I start rubbing her back or her arm gemtly she will either say that hurts or it tickles, but I think she does it so ill stop?? So confused! She said when we first started talking again she wanted to take things slow, which for about a month I could kind of understand, but after 3 months I don't know. I feel if we go any slower, we'll be going in reverse! Im 30 she is 27... we should be enjoyign a healthy sex life and everythign else involved. Even if we kiss, its just a kiss, not a total make out session like any normal couple would do.
Her friend came in one night where I worked and asked how things are going, I said great except that we haven't had sex yet... she even agreed that seemed odd, and feels she has changed someone. I feel I was being baited by her, But she is her best friend but at the same time is very straight forward. She had talke dto my girlffriend the next day to kind "help" to get the ball rolling. So of course... the very next day she came over in the morning gave me a nice make out session type kiss (no sex) but was being very sweet and endearing to me... unlike usually.
I guess Im curious if her relationship with the guy she left me for changed her.. and why her lack of desire for sex? We use to have sex all the time, just seems weird now? She broke my heart when she left me and now I'm starting to develop insecurities of her still see the guy she was with? Not sure if she likes the comfort of me and possibly sex elsewhere... or if she genuinely wants to go slow? But how long is this going to keep going? Im at my whits end and not sure how to move forward if she won't let it?
Please help!!

[talaniman]

Can't you tell she is stringing you along, and the only reason she even talks to you, is because it didn't work out with the other dude. She doesn't have a clue as what she should be doing, but your easy so she keeps you around until somebody interesting comes around, and then she will leave again. She'll be back if THAT doesn't work though. Wake up, and kick her to the curb.

[Fr_Chuck]

I will agree with the stringing along, but also note many ladies 3 months is not even a time to mention sex, a lot of ladies don't do sex unless they are enganged and/or married. And to be honest if she is one of those type of ladies, your constant pushing for sex will only end up with breaking up also

[plonak]

Fr_Chuck may be on to something.. maybe she's feeling guilty about having sex and is afraid to tell you.. my suggestion is TALK! Communcation is number the 1 most important thing to a relationship... also, maybe she has an STD? Not to be rude or assume, but it could be why she's putting it on hold