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amicon · Nov 10, 2009, 04:21 AM

:-).yes circles is right-I don't know if the threads need merging or not- I feel like I'm peeling an onion!
Still can't rep you!

Clough · Nov 10, 2009, 04:31 AM

I was hoping that the issue on this thread would just be about communication. The threads might not need to be merged, but we'll just have to see what develops here.

Thanks!

I wish · Nov 10, 2009, 05:31 AM

Please keep all questions regarding the same issue in the same thread.

Your girlfriend has been confused for a while now with many different issues.

What you can do is let her know that you're there for her. If she does confide in you, make sure you're just listening to her problems and not trying to help her solve her issues.

Sounds like she just needs a little space to figure things out first before you push the issue of wanting to be her shoulder to cry on. In other words, if she can't stay committed in this relationship without thinking about other guys, then you won't have a relationship to talk about.

brokenheartls · Nov 10, 2009, 12:52 PM

Well...
She finally talked to me and said she feels much better..
She said she loves me a lot like every 5 minuets, I really felt that conversation we had brought us closer..
But still she said she wants some time alone and I said OK
But she also said that she wants me to listen to her when she has problems , and that good right ? Because I don't want to be that gay friend that helps girls.. I want to be the understanding boyfriend

supermannnnnn · Nov 10, 2009, 01:16 PM

You are NOT HER BOYFRIEND!

You ARE not acting like a REAL MAN!

You are letting her USE YOU!

You are getting PLAYED... HARD!

You are being her toy, and she can take you out and use you whenever she wants or needs it.

You are INDEED being the statement above, you made about helping the girls.

Bad move!

Sorry buddy. Everyone on this thread gave you BEAUTIFUL advise, but you don't want to listen.

Im done here. =) Good Luck.

P.S. You will realize in the end, you shouldof listened from the beginning.

Imabadman · Nov 10, 2009, 01:25 PM

OH YES!! Preach it my brother Supernnnnnn!

Couldn't agree with you more.

brokenheartls · Nov 10, 2009, 01:25 PM

She told me she needs some space , she also said that there is a chance we get back together , but only if my best friend helps..
But he is almost 99% busy
And that's a problem..
Now we are talking about our problems by our self
And looks like everything is going good..

Imabadman · Nov 10, 2009, 01:27 PM

Yeah... keep doing that.

(Banging your head on the wall.)

brokenheartls · Nov 10, 2009, 01:42 PM

I'm not a relationship pro..
But when someone tells me there is a chance , then I should try
I will not talk to her tomorrow.. and not answer her calls..
I tell you what will happen

amicon · Nov 10, 2009, 02:32 PM

Use some time taking care of yourself just relax for a while and leave the drama be so you can clear your head.

I wish · Nov 10, 2009, 04:09 PM

You already tried by telling her that you still want to continue this relationship.

Now that she knows how you feel, the ball is on her side of the court. It's her move next. Let her figure out what she wants first. Once she figures it out, she will look for you. You don't need to put anymore pressure on her. Just leave her alone and focus on yourself.

brokenheartls · Nov 11, 2009, 01:29 AM

I haven't talk to her or call or , she will come back from school like another 3 hours.. I won't call her when she gets back, and I'll tell you what will happen

brokenheartls · Nov 11, 2009, 08:51 AM

She broke up because we are different religion..
I'm going to speak with her tomorrow

brokenheartls · Nov 11, 2009, 05:10 PM

I'm 18 years old , and my g.f is almost 17
We've been together for 4 months
Anyway..
She talked to her mother about me
And her mother told her what type of a guy she wants
Well.. I'm everything she wants except I'm not Muslim I'm a Christian

And she said it's a big problem...

So my g.f dumped me although in the beginning she said she didn't care that we have different religion views..

Help what can I do to make her believe me that everything will be o.k and that we could have a future together please I need help fast

She is going to talk to a friend of mine tomorrow , she said that she doesn't want to see me
Because when she sees me she will want me back
But I'm coming any way I need to talk to her , and my friend is going to help

sprtrmpcnsltng · Nov 11, 2009, 05:26 PM

Depending on the state you are in 17 will get you 20. May not want to pursue this till you are both of legal age.

Muslim faith is very strict on no interfaith relationships. You could convert. But a recent case had a father drive over his daughter over his same issue.

IF it is meant to be it will be. Let your faith guide you.

brokenheartls · Nov 11, 2009, 06:39 PM

And if I don't believe in faith ?
I need to get her back

itried · Nov 11, 2009, 07:03 PM

You sound desperate because you keep posting in the hopes that someone will tell you what you want to hear. What you want to hear is that you need to do A then B, skip C, think about D, then do E, maybe back to C then D again and she will come galloping back to you on a unicorn that shoots rainbows out of it's horn.

The thing is that there is nothing, and I mean ABSOLUTELY NOTHING you can do except let her go and think and do whatever it is that she needs to do in order to sort HER life out. YOU may need her in YOUR life, but sadly, the converse is not true for her. She's wondering if she needs you at all so you need to let her wonder. While she's doing this all you can do is step back, give her space and work on your life because as it stands now you are all you have left.

2ndTime · Nov 12, 2009, 12:54 AM

You need to tell her that you can't help her if she can't help herself in deciding who she needs to be with. If she comes out and tells you that I thought we were good friends, then you know what her true feelings about you is. If she loves her ex, you can't do anything about that. She can't have the cake and eat it, too. It sounds like she wants to keep you on the side because you let her keep you on the side.

brokenheartls · Nov 12, 2009, 02:03 AM

But the reason the dumped me is because I'm a christian

Isn't there a way to convince her that there is a future with me ?
I know we already broke up , but if there is a way please tell me

The bad part is she is starting seeing my best friend a lot , he is a christian too , but really.. she talks to him more than me when we were together

Imabadman · Nov 12, 2009, 07:15 AM

Smell that..

Desperation. Not a good thing.