[icemantj]

Lol yea I guess your right that its not a good idea to go after the easy women I'm just trying to think of a way to put her out of my mind for good. I may go to the box gym today and hit the bag for a couple hours.

[amicon]

Now THAT'S a GOOD idea!
Go for it.

[icemantj]

How am I going to know when it's a good time to date again? This keeps going through my head because I've been out of the game for 4 years.

[HistorianChick]

You'll know. It's not something that you can set a time limit on... it will happen when it happens.

Sorry that that is rather nebulous, but believe me, you'll know. :)

[icemantj]

K update... I've been feeling up and down. I don't know why but I think I just miss the comfort of being with someone or maybe I'm scared that I won't ever be able to make a relationship work. But another side of me tells me that I'm better off being single so I can improve myself. I have a lot of stuff that I need to work on... being social is one of them because I'm really really shy lol. I've been being threating by her friends on a normal basis and I pretty much tell them if you got a problem with me then come fix it. They haven't done anything they just keep txting me and calling me like some 8 yr olds or something. I have started to talk to one of my ex's from like 6th grade and we may be hanging out this weekend to catch up on stuff. So I'm guessing life is starting to look up but I still have those down times that I really really hate. I still dream about her which I really wish I could make myself not to but I guess I can't help that.

[amicon]

Ignore the stupid texts-just delete them.
We do anything about the dreams of the exes-getting out of bed and having a coffee and a shower works for me.

Get to know new people,don't start dating until you are completely over the ex.

[icemantj]

I'm no sure if ill ever be completely over my ex. I don't see me not ever being able to not think of her. Even after all she did to me I still love her. I mean don't get me wrong I'm making progress I'm starting to hurt less and less everyday. Its just really hard to not think of her at times.

[amicon]

That's normal,but you'll find as the days go by, you'll think about her less and less.
You're getting better and that's the main thing.

[icemantj]

K so I had this girl come over and hang out with me tonight and she seemed pretty into me. So now I'm wondering should I pursue this and try to make something out of it or do you guys think its to soon. I mean me and her gets along really really good. I just don't want to rush into things

[amicon]

It's too soon to get romantically involved with anyone as you need to heal from your breakup.

Be friends if you think you can handle it,but going for a rebound relationship is not a good idea.
You don't get over someone by replaing them with somebody else.

Its not fair on them,and its not good for you.

[icemantj]

We are just friends she is just getting over a hard break up to so we been comforting each other. But yea I'm pretty much completely over my ex. Still dream about her sometimes but it doesn't bother me as much as it use to. I've been going to partys a lot and just been enjoying the single life. Ill keep you guys updated

[amicon]

Good.
Stick to the friendship and keep enjoying being single.
Best of luck.

[valkman98]

Reread some of the post, keep working on you. Its hard to do the work needed when you are young,life is so fastpaced now. You must get your head together so this won't happen again,think how you will feel the next time and she is the one? A hard bump in the road of life, won't be the last but its up to you if it the roughest. The better you "fix" yourself, the easier the next fall will be. You my find"her" and not fall?