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    Jake2008 Posts: 6,721, Reputation: 3460
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    #61

    Sep 12, 2009, 10:51 AM
    Isn't the whole point to give her a clear message that the relationship is over?

    You can't have it both ways. You can't say it's over, go back to your boyfriend, we can't be friends etc. and then wonder if she really means she's interested, because she might call.

    Why don't you seek out counselling to help you put this relationship in perspective. It's time to get off the merry go round, make a decision, and move on. Really move on. As in life is short, don't waste your time on 'what if relationships'.

    When you posted for advice, people generously and thoughtfully gave you their opinions, but your last post has given the impression that you are talking the talk, but you're not walking the walk.

    Time to tuck this relationship into a little box in your brain. Put the box in a vault, and lock it up tighter than the Royal Mint- with its contents, including the emotional ones, which are are off-limits, and not accessible. Because, if you try the combination, the entire thing is going to explode in your face again.
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    #62

    Sep 12, 2009, 03:58 PM

    she cheated on me 4 other times with him from October-November. The 4th time i had it,
    You don't want that back, you may think you do, but you don't. Her value system, and moral compass were not compatible with yours, and may never be. So now at least you know that love is more than a feeling of attraction, and fun times. A lot more.
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    ohsohappy Posts: 1,564, Reputation: 314
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    #63

    Sep 12, 2009, 10:09 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by girlsrule13 View Post
    isnt this illegal. a 17 year old, and a 19 year old?
    No it's not illegal, just because he's 19 and she's not technically an adult does not make it illegal because they're only about 2 years apart, if even
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    ohsohappy Posts: 1,564, Reputation: 314
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    #64

    Sep 12, 2009, 10:22 PM

    Okay I'm just going to be straightforeward.

    You are brooding over a little girl. She is not grown up yet, and even though she says that she has feelings for you, she cares more about yourself. She obviously wouldn't think twice about doing something that she wanted to do, even if it meant hurting you. Hence the fact that she cheated on you 4 times. She's 17, and she cheats, how can she possibly tell you that she has legitimate feelings for you? She's feeding you crap and you're buying in to it just because you feel like you love this girl.
    I saw a quote recently on this site, probably someone on this thread even, (it was a signature) That said something like "You should never love anyone more than you love yourself" And there was another one, it's on Taliniman's signature "Never make a person a priority in your life, while allowing them to make you an option in theirs." DUH!


    Anyway, she couldn't care less about your relationship with her or your feelings toward her. She's using you as the "go to" guy when she isn't getting what she wants from somewhere else. She's taking advantage of your feelings for you, and keeping you on the line for whenever it's convenient to reel you back in again.. reality check.
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    #65

    Sep 12, 2009, 10:49 PM

    Thanks Jake2008! :) I call 'em like I see 'em!


    I want to say one more thing to jHenderson. You need to quit making excuses for her. You're letting her treat you like this.
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    #66

    Sep 13, 2009, 08:23 AM

    Dude you was at a party with girls and you did WHAT?? Talk about this EX!
    Your kidding right?

    Think about it.
    What was that movie? Where when anyone asked about his EX girlfriend he would say stuff
    Like"she was hit by a car and is dead" or fell off a mountain it was funny but that's how you need to deal with this and if you would have used that line at the party YOU would have had a lot more fun than being Mr.Bringdown talking about the ex.
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    Sep 15, 2009, 03:48 PM

    After I tried all kinds of "free tips", I finley discover one way that really helped me to get my ex girlfriend back here

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