[brad321]

And she guaranteed that it would be a great time for him if he did come.

[kctiger]

Don't let her get to you man. I know... easier said than done. Too often do we let our ex girlfriends screw with your mind. That is just garbage. If your friend is any kind of friend, he would blow her off. Leave her trashy, low class a$$ in the past. She isn't worth your time or your heartache.

[JohnD212]

i thought i was doing better i really did, it just seems like i can't get her out of my mind. i know she is out of my life and not causeing me pain, I'm the only one allowing me to cause pain, its just i miss her!

Hey Brad... if it makes you feel better... I've been all about No Contact etc. etc... I received two emails recently from my ex and did a great job of not opening them... until this morning. Of course neither gave me anything... and I felt the enormous pain that 4 or 5 stupid words can cause. So even those of us who think we know how to do it... screw up. I felt the pain and boy it hurt. Now the challenge I have is to learn not to do that.

If you were a kid and you burned your hand on the oven... would you run back and touch it again... nope. For some reason emotional pain causes just the opposite... we run back over and over - even though we know how much it will hurt.

Just letting you know you aren't alone this weekend feeling pain. You know what else helps take your mind off the pain ? Stupid TV shows... like the really dumb holiday movies that they show each year...

Hope your Sunday is better than your Saturday buddy.

[brad321]

John what did she want? I just want to be over her, in high school she was a classy girl, like I know I'm 20 but like marriage material, she was so sweet and thoughful and I felt so blessed to have her, and now in less then two months its like who the are you? Who is that girl that I feel in love with? Who is this stranger? I know I got to get my mind off her I think it was just a hard time cause I was home for this week and I have thousands of memories of her so hopefuly when I go back to school it will be better. It just sucks our 3 year anniversay is coming up in a week and then christmas. Whatever I won't worry about that now. I know I'm dumb for asking this but will she ever feel this void that I'm feeling right now, I know she is doing a great job getting her mind off everything by hanging out with all these guys, but will she ever feel the viod I feel or pry not?

[talaniman]

Take a page from her play book, and fill the void with things you enjoy as she has.

Just because you don't see her boohooing doesn't mean she isn't. That's your mind playing tricks on you, seeing her pleasure, through your misery. I guarantee, if you get up right now and get busy having fun, you wouldn't be hear crying to us.

Not to be harsh (okay maybe a little) but being in pain doesn't mean you can't do other things, as its about the actions you take for yourself that counts.

Got to go the Colts are on!!

[brad321]

OK talaniman sorry for putting my problems on you guys. I know you guys don't even know me and why would you care about someone you don't even know. I just find it helpful to vent at times I feel better about posting my feelings then I do keeping them in. The thing is I don't want to bother my friends with this problem so I was coming here looking for support that is all, and just to let you know colts suck. You got to cheer for the BEARS!

[LifeChangesMan]

Brad let it go pal.

And cheer for a real football team like the giants.

[brad321]

Wow I got a good laugh on that one. The giants that's hilarious

[LifeChangesMan]

Yeah, 11 - 1 hysterical... must be nice to make the playoffs being in the worst division in football, that's cool though.

[brad321]

I'm just giving u sh*t man come on

[LifeChangesMan]

No doubt pimpin, keep that head up, everything will be All right

[brad321]

I really am trying to keep my head up, today is better than yesterday so that is good, same time this still sucks lol

[brad321]

Update: its been 2 weeks since I've made any contact with her at all. Do I still think about her yes, is it getting easier I don't know, but I feel like I'm healing very slowly

[kctiger]

Two weeks isn't that long. It takes a long time, especially if you have strong feelings for her. You are doing good... so just keep the boat floating forward! It will get easier and easier as time goes by.

[fmxracer986]

She will come back dude! Seriously my girl did the same thing to me man about two months ago, and I just got over her and I found another girl that I have a lot in comon, and now my Ex keeps calling me saying she screwed up and she wants to be with me in forever, I got over her and told her to leave me alone or ill change my number because what she put me threw and I do not love her anymore, if you love your girl then you can take her back! Just hold it out!

[kctiger]

WRONG!! Do not hold out hope your girlfriend will come back. It may be a cool thing to happen, but it isn't reality. Don't listen to people that tell you that, otherwise you get this stupid false hope in your head. Move on as you are doing... 9 times out of 10, like FMX stated, if they do come back, or by that time, you are over it and have found even more happiness with someone else.

[brad321]

I understand, and who knows if she does come back I might not want her, but for right now I know I haven't learned all the lessons I need to learn quite yet, or made the improvemnts that I want to for my future. But the question I got is fmx how long did you go NC before she came back or she just told you one day that she wanted to try again?

[brad321]

Also fmx how long where you broken up for before she came back?

[talaniman]

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[brad321]

O all right, I was just wandering didn't mean anything negative about it