[cubcadet13]

Well she left for her parent's house Sunday, it is now Wednesday and we haven't talked/texted at all. My plan was to give her space to think. I figured out what I want, should I text her? Or should I give her a few more days since we decided she would stay a week.

[Homegirl 50]

Leave her alone and give her the space you said you would give her. You are sounding desperate.

[cubcadet13]

That is what I was worrying about. Last thing I want to seem is desperate.

[talaniman]

Leave her alone and do you own thing and take some time for yourself.

[cubcadet13]

We had out chat. She ended things because she couldn't do it anymore. She said what drove it home is me not coming over and telling her I needed her, I guess letting her have time to think things over was a bad idea... I am crushed. Not sure what to do, hoping she will realize her mistake and come back, tempted to go get her from her parents house. Oh and this is my first real breakup... awesome.

[Homegirl 50]

When you had your chat, did you tell her you were giving her time to think, which is why you didn't go get her?
I think she had her mind made up before that.

[talaniman]

She is guilt tripping you, making it all your fault for the break up. It's not, at least not entirely. Now leave her alone my friend, as her game was to make you feel bad in the first place. Let the dust settle and the emotions go down.

[cubcadet13]

I have done s lot of thinking about this, obviously. I have talked a lot with my family and friends. The part I was confused about is all of her stuff is still in the house. She even said I could stay in the house as long as I wanted and she would pay for half, more than she normally pays. It almost seems like she is wanting a huge romantic gesture. But since that is not how I am and never have been I won't do that. But I was planning on going over to her parents house to talk to her. I just want to sit down and tell her what she means to me because she means the world to me and always has. So I'll let her know. Maybe take flowers but if that doesn't work then it is over for good

[Homegirl 50]

Do you not think taking flowers to her at her parents is a romantic gesture? I think for as long as you two were dating, you don't know each other. You're not teens anymore. Talk to each other and get to know each other as adults. You may find you have grown apart or you may like the adults.
I don't think you are as much in love as you say you are. I think you both have grown out of each other and neither want to be the one to end it. Maybe buying this house was your attempt to stay together. It takes more than property to keep a couple together

[cubcadet13]

I agree it takes more than a property to stay together and trees flowers at her parents house is a romantic gesture. But who am I kidding. I love that stuff because I love to see her smile. I'm going to try it and see what happens.

[cubcadet13]

I went over there. We talked. I laid it all out there. Told her how I feel. Took her flowers. She said she went out with the old guy she was texting. And she had a great time. But I told her how I feel and now I wait

[Homegirl 50]

Wait for what? She has told you she has gone out with this guy and had a good time. What do you think she is going to do about you?

[cubcadet13]

She sill loves me. I hope she wants what we have. She wants kids and a wedding and a future. This guy cannot give that to her. I hope she just realizes that was fun because it was new and different. And I'm also crushed, I need something to hope for