[Alty]

She's his sister, not a stranger in the playground.

Why did you change your post? Now it looks like I'm talking about thin air.

With all respect, I think you are taking this way too personally. No one is talking about your children.

The Grandmother needs to trust her gut instinct - if she thinks there's a problem she needs to address it in a way that makes her comfortable. Of course, she hasn't come back so we'll never know -

I didn't change my post. :( I did add something to another post, but I changed nothing. Which post are you talking about? Looks like I may have been edited.

I do agree that if the OP is worried she needs to take action. That was one of my points. She hasn't done a thing other than post here. So how worried can she really be? Is she worried only because of the boys age? Just like everyone else?

[JudyKayTee]

I didn't change my post. :( I did add something to another post, but I changed nothing. Which post are you talking about? Looks like I may have been edited.

I do agree that if the OP is worried she needs to take action. That was one of my points. She hasn't done a thing other than post here. So how worried can she really be? Is she worried only because of the boys age? Just like everyone else?

I have no idea - this is what it did say and this what I answered (you will note that I quoted it):

"That's just it. We don't know what's going on. But everyone that posted, minus me, were all ready to think the worst of this 13 year old kid.

That says a lot. Not about the 13 year old, but about how children of that age are viewed. That is just sad.

I have to go tell my son that he is now evil because he's 14. That's how he'll be perceived from now on. No babysitting for him, he must want to do it because he's a sick pervert! He's 14! Not a single good bone in his body. That's the gist of what was posted here.

I'm done. I don't want to start a fight. I for one will continue to judge people by their actions, not their age.

Alty out, and Alty very upset. I never saw this sort of prejudice coming from the people on this site, based on one post that never once stated that the 13 year old was doing anything wrong. Very disappointing.

Jared! You're 14! You're now evil in the eyes of the world. Thank God I still love you and believe in you.

Yes, I’m crying."


Now it reads:

"Read back. I did.

The question was innocent, is it normal for a 13 year old to want to play with an 8 year old.

Not once was anything inappropriate mentioned by the OP. In fact, she never came back to clarify why she feels this way.

But, read your threads. This 13 year old is up to not good, according to all of you. He should be watched, yelled at, kept away at all costs.

I don't think he's evil, that's what was implied on this thread by everyone but me. Otherwise why would anyone be concerned? If he's just playing, like many kids do, then there's no reason for concern. He must be up to no good. Should I quote all of you? Read back. I did.

I don't want to fight with any of you. I'm just in shock.

Jared is 13, he plays with his 9 year old sister. He tickles her, he plays stuffies with her, video games. You will all say that's fine, because you know me, and you grown to know my kids through me. They get the benefit of the doubt, but a very innocent question asked by someone on this site, about a child you don't know, with no hint of anything inappropriate, that turns into a sexual predator, someone to be afraid of, weary of. Read back."

See the difference in tone?

[ScottGem]

I'm closing this thread. There has been too many emotions and not enough facts. As has been pointed out the only person who can shed light on what was going on is the OP who has not returned.

This thread was about a grandmother being concerned about an older boy and her granddaughter. Whether she had a right to be concerned we don't know. But we do know she was concerned. So our reaction was to echo her concern and advise her to watch the situation carefully.

I don't think people assumed the worst but simply advised caution.