[Squiffy]

Don't get involved in it. You want them to break up, fair enough, that's understandable (I have been in your shoes) but it won't do any good. He isn't going to believe anything you say, you will be branded the bitter ex and ignored. That's the way these things work. Let him fall in love with her and risk getting hurt, it will be his own fault. Why do you care if he gets hurt anyway? Neither of them have given a damn about your feelings so you odnt owe him that. Its hard but move on with your life, and find someone who won't hurt you or cheat on you. Forget her, you don't need her, he deserves her.

[Skell]

Let the cheaters have one another ans stay away from them

Your better off without either of them in your life.

And I can assure you it won't make you feel better.

[mastone]

I want to know how telling this new guy what he is in for with my ex. He is the one who has been cheating with her knowing that i existed and would call her cell phone and avoid the home phone. He promised many things to her and told her to leave me to go out with him.I know she is to blame to allow this to go on and finally falling for him. I have been in an argument with him over the phone when he called her cell phone to talk with her. He said that she should be with him. I more or less want to just tell him about her past and other things that he does not know about. It might make him think twice at best it might only cause some arguments between them much like he did do my relationship.

It will make me feel better atleast in the short term. I can't see things making me feel worse then her cheating and saying she is not in love with me.

I know you say that this will hurt me but i can't see how.

Have you ever heard of KARMA? Let it do its job!

[winding200]

I just don't want to be seen as the person who did the cheating. that's what she said about her ex husband to people. Later i found out that it was her that cheated.

People are not stupid, and always find out the truth. Why do you think she will say you as cheater if you didn't?

[I wish]

There's no reason to stop talking to your friends. The only thing I recommend is to let your friends know that you prefer not to be invited to events where your ex will be there, to avoid unnecessary complications. If they were really your friends, they would understand and respect your wishes.

But don't forget, a friendship is a two-way street. They have to want to be friends with you too, just warning you that they might side with your ex and stop being friends with you.

I hate to say it, but these are times when you find out who your real friends are.



Edit: I just realized that this question was asked years ago, so this answer is for future reference

[mandeologul]

I read all these posts. There all good, and I am living this scenario right now in my life. My advice to you is to let her know that you are doing well, but don't exaggerate, let her see how her life sucks without a real man like you. Be yourself, but not your present self, be the one you were in the first day or month of your relationship. Just lke you don't give a f**k...
Chears from Romania, because as we all know love and the bull that comes with it is INTERNATIONAL.