[Immortelle]

JL, your sharing is reassuring, supportive, terrifying, and sobering. I'm beginning to realize how difficult it is to find others who can empathize with this experience. I hope they never have to learn how. Day three, and I'm still finding new emotions. Your story offers... ah, I don't know how to describe it, but it is soooo very helpful to me.

He posted bail. The police performed a civil standby while I quickly removed all his things from the apartment shortly afterwards. No contact, but I'm staying in a hotel. The advocate who's working with me is working on the lease termination. I'm changing cities and lifestyle. Washington is PHENOMENAL with domestic violence support and services.

The police officer who assisted me today said he was happy to see someone finally take decisive action in this sort of situation. I told him I had a lot of help. I was referring to all of you here. I never would have stood up for myself with such urgency. I would have kept questioning and doubting the entire situation. Reading back over my earlier posts, I really am shocked at how much I underestimated his control and violence potential. All of your responses, all of your diligent instructions have been my primary support and driving force. My life is going to get better eventually; please know you all helped that become a reality.

[vanheart]

So happy to hear. You are doing the right things.

Be safe until you move, don't let your guard down. Make sure. He's out now, remember.

When are you leaving?

[Immortelle]

I have to find an apartment : The first of September is my goal. All day tomorrow I'll be looking.

It's convienent my car broke down. I have to buy a new one:) Works out perfectly for anonymity's sake.

[Just Looking]

I’m so glad to hear you are taking such decisive action – no better way to put it then what the police officer said. You should be very proud of yourself. It would have only gotten worse, but you are putting an end to it. I’m also impressed with the help you are getting from the police.

This site is amazing. I’ve come on with various questions over the last year and have always found the help I needed. The people are so warm and helpful. You have a lot of decisions and work ahead of you. If you need help or encouragement, you know where to find it. I know we would all like to receive progress reports. Good luck.

[kaka67]

Please make sure you change all your passwords... for everything.

You don't know what he's put on the computer/laptop/phone to track what you are writing on here/emails etc.

It can be done. Don't underestimate someone's ability to get revenge.

Cut off his friends. They are HIS friends. Not yours.

[asking]

I have to find an apartment : The first of September is my goal. All day tomorrow I'll be looking.

It's convienent my car broke down. I have to buy a new one:) Works out perfectly for anonymity's sake.

Good!

Is there any chance he has access to your credit card statements? Could the statement go to the old apartment by accident? Could he call the credit card company with your number and find out what you've been buying and where? I know this sounds paranoid, but I would pay attention.

I am so glad you are acting proactively and getting help and support.


Hooray for Immortelle!

[Homegirl 50]

Hang in the lady. You are going to be fine.
You holding him accountable and leaving is a very wise thing and possibly your life saver.

[bitter_sweet21]

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[bitter_sweet21]

Hey I'm in the same place as you but I have a kid with him witch can make it so much harder to up an leave I also have no family no friends that a true friends I have been really close a guy friend of mine he is always like just pack an ill come get you but its easier said then done because I fell guilt if I leave I feel like my son will always hate me when he gets older because of leaving his father I have no job I'm a stay at home I also have no car I'm so alone he always blams me for evey little thing nothing is good enough for him I try a n try my heart feels like its truly breaking he is always saying I'm worthless or how nobody willl ever care an I just feel so unloved we been together 4 years its been this way since I was pregnant 3 years ago he is always putting me down an is always saying rude an hurtful things to me at home an in public I cry an cry an pray I can find away out of this place I even tried getting a job he put the place I wannna work out down an says how dumb you won't last there but yet he will say your lazy get a job anhe will say being a stay a home mom isn't *****in hard like washing dishes do house work etc. with a 3 year little boy who is running around messing the stuff I already cleaned he makes me feel as if he can find someone better then me but yet ill try an leave he stands at te door an says your not going an begs me to stay an work it out then says imma change I promise you just tell me what to do ill do it but that last a day an he does this thing where he will hurt me so badby thr things he says he will go out an buy me flowers or jewlery etc. but then act like OK cry baby you done with your tears I got you something I'm so alone in this world all I want is some respect an love an not feel like I'm not wanted I want I man to love me flaws an all I'm always being told how pretty I am an I never see anything pretty about me I don't know wy anyone would want me I have nothing but a broken soul an heart I'm sorry I just someone to help me see my way out of his lies an hurtful words if anyone wants to tell me anythig will help thanks u <3