[Homegirl 50]

Leave her alone and get some healing and therapy for yourself.
I'm not understanding why you have put up with this for 8 years, 8 times and you still have questions.
We know what her problem is, what's yours?
Work on that and in time you will be fine.

[Kitkat22]

It will take time for you to start trusting again but you will .

Time has a way of healing and so does spending time with friends.

Trust me, you will get over her and you'll have yourself confidence back again.

[vanheart]

Yup. Good idea. Any help will do you good.

Was just thinking how could you crawl in bed w/her at night knowing this.

You can't get back those 8 years, but you can learn from this & why.

To understand you first, then others.

[vanheart]

Hey Motor,

Look at it this way. You are one one of many this girl deceived, and continues too. She doesn't know what she wants & neither do you.

There's spiders and flies. Now you can fly away, unstuck.

Looking out for the next web.

[Kitkat22]

Hey Motor,

Look at it this way. You are one one of many this girl deceived, and continues too. She doesnt know what she wants & neither do you.

Theres spiders and flies. Now you can fly away, unstuck.

Looking out for the next web.

Well said Van, well said.. gotta spread the rep.:)

[motcr5]

Thanks to all... your support continues to be extremely important to me, and hearing those words, no matter how direct they may be, is important because I know that I have lost all objectivity when it comes to her and I need an outside perspective... NC is so hard

[vanheart]

NC is easy, unless you feel like getting hurt more.

Just do it. Suck it up, stand up for yourself & NEVER talk to this girl again. In person, Facebook or whatever.

Chuck everything that has to do wth her. She's toxic and its spread all over you. Now you got to wipe yourself clean. And use this time to get to know yourself.

May sound like airy hype, but, Its time to start.

This process of understanding isn't just for now, but forever.

This isn't just about this chick, its everything in your life. Past. Present & future.

Do some homework.

[talaniman]

The point of the exercise of NC, is to find the way you cope with your feelings the best. If crying doesn't work, distract yourself, if NT (not thinking ) works, keep doing it.

This is all about you NOW, and HOW you approach YOURSELF, and meet your needs.

We can suggest, but guess who does the real work. The idea is to feel better about yourself, and be able to move on to the next challenge in life.

[vanheart]

True words.

Plus this girl is no good for you.

She doesn't deserve your time, forgiveness or anything else.

Like Tal says, this is YOUR time now.

To work on bettering yourself & becoming more aware.

[Kitkat22]

Spreading the rep means agreeing or .disagreeing with someone. When you've disagreed or agreed with a person you have to wait a while before you give them an agree or disagree