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lea_09 · Mar 23, 2010, 08:28 PM

The way you guys put it is not in the right perspective. You guys helped give me doubts, but didn't give me a reason what should I do after? I am mentally a sober person and I don't smile a lot because I generally see nothing to be cheerful about. I keep to myself.

Kitkat22 · Mar 23, 2010, 08:39 PM

Originally Posted by lea_09

The way you guys put it is not in the right perspective. You guys helped give me doubts, but didn't give me a reason what should I do after? I am mentally a sober person and i don't smile a lot because I generally see nothing to be cheerful about. I keep to myself.

You came here asking advice and you don't like what you hear? We gave you doubts? You need to take agood look in the mirror little girl. You are the one who caused this, not us! There are EXPERTS who have told you what they think. No one twisted your arm to take any of the advice. It was our OPINIONS. You made your bed, and now you are going to have to lie in it! I'm not an expert, but the ones who gave you their advice were giving it because you asked. If you can't stand the heat, get out of the kitchen.

lea_09 · Mar 23, 2010, 08:41 PM

Woman, read it right! I said you helped give me doubts (I was referring to my relationship). Not to the advice. You can be obnoxious and I don't have to apologize about it.

Kitkat22 · Mar 23, 2010, 08:45 PM

Originally Posted by lea_09

Woman, read it right! I said you helped give me doubts (I was referring to my relationship). Not to the advice. You can be obnoxious and I don't have to apologize about it.

Thank you... Thats a compliment coming from you!

lea_09 · Mar 23, 2010, 08:51 PM

It can be if you twist my words

kp2171 · Mar 23, 2010, 09:29 PM

Originally Posted by lea_09

Woman, read it right! I said you helped give me doubts (I was referring to my relationship). Not to the advice. You can be obnoxious and I don't have to apologize about it.

This is a great way to get the people who have spent time on your thread, trying to help you, bail.

More than once in this thread you have lashed out when somebody didn't understand your post...

Look back... kitkat22 has given you a lot of kind words and encouragement.

If this is what helping you through this comes to, well, there's a lot of other threads to attend.

Good luck.

I, for one, am unsubscribing from this one.

Kitkat22 · Mar 23, 2010, 10:01 PM

I meant it when I said God bless you. I don't hate you and I'm unsubscribing also. I trust in god and the Bible says, "be angry, but sin not". I offer you blessings in whatever you choose to do.

lea_09 · Mar 23, 2010, 10:13 PM

Ok, I am done with the thread when I decided to end it. I may get offended easily because you put things in a one way perspective and were rude about it. You can give advice without being harsh and I can be nice when I agree. I don't lash out all the time, but it is part of defense mechanisms. It doesn't hurt me that you are unsubscribing.

friend4u178 · Mar 23, 2010, 10:26 PM

Originally Posted by lea_09

You can give advice without being harsh and I can be nice when I agree.

Lea
A lot of the time in this forum harshness is necessary sometimes , when your in a situation like yours you want us to tell you what you want to hear , well we could do that but it won't fix your situation.

So if your going to be nice only when you agree (your words above) your not going to get many people to stick around and help you.

Originally Posted by lea_09

I don't lash out all the time, but it is part of defense mechanisms.

One you have to learn to control , you may want to use your
"defense mechanism" but it's not real smart or nice to use it against people who offer their free time to try and help you.

Anyway I hope you take my words as encouragement and I know they're a bit harsh but it's not a stab at you , just the facts.

smoothy · Mar 24, 2010, 06:24 AM

Originally Posted by lea_09

Well, true. I am kinda tired of him saying something then doing another thing. I can't trust him with a lot of things now. I try to but I feel like I can't take it anymore. I am like in tears now because I try to talk to him during the day but he ignores me. I mean it is nice you tell the person that you got something to do like homework and you can't talk. I can't take it anymore and I am doing the crappy break up and ignoring him and not ever talking to him. I mean it is hard, but he is hitting me where it hurts and he hasn't given me one good reason why he loves me or wants to be with me. I am tired of it.

Remember THOSE words... because that's all the reason you need to walk away and not look back. You don't have a relationship with him... he has or has had anyway.. a booty call, not much more is there. People in good relationships will have the occaisional bad day, its never perfect 100% of the time... but it certainly won't be bad nearly all the time. You don't incessantly put down or berate someone you care about. And that's exactly what you describe that he's doing.

lea_09 · Mar 27, 2010, 11:50 AM

I don't care about him right now. I have been focusing a lot on other things. I blocked him off my phone so I don't have to talk to him for now. I mean it isn't fair for him to not be suppportive for what I do. We don't have common interests that it causes us to be totally opposite. It kind of makes me upset that he isn't supportive even about plastic surgery. My parents are letting me get it just to remove my birth mark off my back. I hate it. I am not going to go out to the max and get a boob job. I can't even see my stomach when I look down because they are big for my body size. This thread has been drawn out for way too long.

Lil Suicide · Mar 27, 2010, 03:36 PM

Whatever the case may be, I would say that if he doesn't make you happy then you should just say it. There are plenty of players in the world and all they provide is learning experiences- what not to go for- that only help you find someone ideal for you.
If your man can't handle being with you without screwing up then he doesn't deserve you cause that's just wasting your time.

lea_09 · Mar 27, 2010, 04:43 PM

He can't handle me with my friends. I mean I would not be making any and it is so hard to keep them because he is so time consuming.

JudyKayTee · Mar 28, 2010, 01:34 PM

Originally Posted by lea_09

We are almost 20!

Is almost 20 the same as being 19?

Why did you have a "conversation" with this female when she contacted you? Agree with everyone else - sounds like an immature soap opera with you in the starring role.

Everything has a price - if you expect him to pay for your college tuition, then expect to pay him back. That may very well involve his current behavior.