Not too long ago, me and my current boyfriend got into a fight and we broke up for the night. He went out drinking all by himself and then later got picked up by a few sorority girls. He went to their house and stayed the night and had sex with a lesbian there. He supposedly drunk texted me all night and said very nasty things. Then a few days later he came and apologized for what he did. I was all hurt because he said he had sex with two other girls last fall to get back at me. Two wrongs definitely do not make a right. Then out of the blue a few days later she messaged me via Facebook and said that my boyfriend was amazing in bed and stuff to hurt my feelings. We chatted for a few hours and I went later to view her profile and she was from Honolulu, Hawaii and went a Baptist School there before she came to Indiana. I live three hours away from where they go to school and if she was so popular and had many friends she should not have every guy from where I live on her Facebook that do not even go to college there. It did not make sense. She had fake pictures up. And her profile was private and only had 130 friends. Her profile pictures were created only a few days after our incident. What I am getting at is she lying and is he in on it. Because obviously she is real, but the profile is not? And is he lying just to get back at me?

I'd go with your gut on this one. That and the fact that he's shown how much he cares about you by his actions, which aren't good.

He has sex with girls to get even with you, he texts you while he's doing this and then he torments you about it after you supposedly make up.

I'd kick him to the curb but that's me, I don't like being treated like crap. I have enemies that treat me better then your boyfriend treats you.

Geez, and you're calling him your 'current' BF. Why? He'd be my 'dead meat' BF if he's treated me like that.

All I can say is who cares why this person put up this fake FB profile and if your BF put her up to it?

She's a bigger loser than your BF. Sounds like they would make a great couple. They both seem to have brains like gnats and behave like insensitive morons.

You say a bigger loser than the boyfriend. I say just as big a loser. Meaning that the girl on FB is the boyfriend trying to make her jealous. That is what it sounds like to me. It takes no imagination to creat a fake profile and why would he/she have all the friends from around your area? Because its not a girl from college at all. Either she is from that area and is currently in that area or she is a he. That he being your boyfriend. I would get rid of him faster than a grenade I pulled the pin on. Turn and run for the hills and never look back. THis guy girl want to be is so not worth what you're going through and I'm sorry but even with my cheat I did not have sex with the girl. If you can get it up for someone else you can get it up for anyone and would gladly do so in my opinion. Sorry you're going through this but stop putting yourself in the situation and stop being a victim. You'll love yourself for leaving

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Originally Posted by lea_09

What I am getting at is she lying and is he in on it. Because obviously she is real, but the profile is not?! And is he lying just to get back at me?

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So best case is that he did have sex and she is real or that he didn't and she and he are lying about it or what?

Basically he's either is screwing with your mind by fabricating a lie (which is pretty evil) or its all the real deal and he still is a b@stard.

I just don't see why its important to know which it is. Either way, he is a jerk.

Just trying to figure out the time-line and events has lead me to think there are a lot of problems in this relationship.

This reads like the plot of a soap opera. I would suggest ditching the plot and writing a new script where you move on.

IF possible go NO CONTACT and delete him from ALL of your contacts (email, phone, I'm, pm, Facebook, Myspace, etc.). Let him live his 'life' and you live yours. Allow yourself to heal and get rid of the baggage this relationship is piling up. Learn what you really want in a relationship. When you are ready, find someone who shares those desires and is willing to work with you to build a relationship not act out a TV show.

Thanks guys. This cleared things up a lot. We have had a lot of troubles and his twin brother agrees that his own brother is lying. I do have a drama like life and it makes it tough for school.

How old are you both? This seems more like a soap opera than a proper relationship.

I ask ages... because a few years can separate an immature jerk... from a festering butthole.

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How old are you both? This seems more like a soap opera than a proper relationship.

I ask ages...because a few years can seperate an immature jerk....from a festering butthole.

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We are almost 20!

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Originally Posted by smoothy

I ask ages...because a few years can seperate an immature jerk....from a festering butthole.

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Sometimes you don't have to choose...

What do you mean?

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What do you mean?

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I mean when his heads up his arse this far why choose between the two...

Used to have a inside joke with friends who'd call on a bad day at work or home... they'd ask how the day was and id say "playing I & A"... they'd ask "whats the count" and I'd say something like "2 A's, an I, and a few double-ups"...

Playing I & A's is short for playing idiots and a$$holes.. and the rules are simple... on a bad day you keep track of how many I's and A's are around you... and sometimes... and this ties into my comment on smoothy's line, sometimes you don't have to choose between the two...

The guy can be both an arse and immature...

That is true. Just a minute ago he was saying I went somewhere during last weekend without telling him? I am a very busy woman and I am regular broke stuent. I have no gas lol

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sometimes you don't have to choose...

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I think I may not have been clear enough with my comment. An 18 year old that acts like that is an Immature jerk... a 38 year old that acts like that is a festering butthole, an older person should know better... a young one may THINK they are mature yet be very far from it.

I honestly thought they were both young... and the OP confirmed it.

Find yourself a more emotionally mature guy. There are plenty of them to pick from.

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I think I may not have been clear enough with my comment. An 18 year old that acts like that is an Immature jerk.....a 38 year old that acts like that is a festering butthole, an older person should know better....a young one may THINK they are mature yet be very far from it.

I honestly thought they were both young.....and the OP confirmed it.

Find yourself a more emotionally mature guy. There are plenty of them to pick from.

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I completely got it from the start. Oversimplified it to get a laugh. Didn't mean to distract from your very valid add...

An inexperienced person does get a little slack sometimes. Its why we so often ask about age. Somebody who has been in the game a lot longer should have progressed... different learning curve, we would hope. Still doesn't mean he gets a pass if he's young... but we're less tolerant of the experienced person who should have bought a clue or two by then...

But I want to say he has been the game long enough! Is it the fact he is tied down and this is the longest relationship we both have held that causes these issues? I mean we are young but we sometimes can be awful together... We never were friends to start with either.

PS: We have dated in high school once before and we broke it off and got back together 2 yrs later

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But I wanna say he has been the game long enough! Is it the fact he is tied down and this is the longest relationship we both have held that causes these issues? I mean we are young but we sometimes can be awful together...We never were friends to start off with either.

PS: We have dated in high school once before and we broke it off and got back together 2 yrs later

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Neither of you have been in this game long enough... trust me... you will understand this when you are older. You can't see it at this point from your perspective. Between 18 and 24 you go through a huge maturation process. Take a look at some 16 year olds... almost funny right? Well, when you are 24 (usually when you are out of college and understand YOU are responsible for your own life) you will think the same about people your age now. It does slow down a lot after 30... it never really stops, just slows down a lot until you end up drooling in an old folks home wearing depends.

That is almost crazy to say. But I believe that a guy's brain maturation is not fully developed until 26. Even then 34 year olds can act like idiots. I think we can maybe use this as life experiences.

OK I have some thoughts. But really the only thing echoing in my head is he had sex with a lesbian? That's just giving me a chuckle.

Sounds like a Jerry Springer script :cool: