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Cat1864 · Mar 26, 2010, 05:10 AM

Because the rest of the relationship has been well covered, I am am going to discuss your latest issue:

Originally Posted by HeartTrips

My girlfriend's boss is in love with her. She has told me it will never happen and she isn't going too quit her job because he loves her. even though its not right that this guy is in love with her when she isn't available. Well my dillemna is this.

They are moving stores and so she told me today that after work she is going to the new store with him to look over the layout and meet with the contractor at 7pm and she will be back by 9pm. Well i didn't hear about it till today and she isn't back yet and I havent heard from her.

Is it wrong for me to be concerned even if I trust her. I mean this guy loves her.

I can really use an opinion.

She shouldn't have to leave her job just because her boss has feelings for her. If he acts on those feelings, HE is in the wrong, NOT her. In this economy, changing jobs is not easy and could put her in an even worse situation.

This is for future reference:
She has a job. She is working. Schedules change due to unforeseen circumstances like traffic, flat tires, other people running late, etc. IF you really do trust her, then trust her to do her job that she is getting paid to do and will be back when she can get there. DO NOT jump to conclusions about what you imagine might be going on between them. Doing that only shows that you do not have the trust in her that you think you do.

talaniman · Mar 26, 2010, 05:22 AM

Any one would be concerned, just out of caring, but how you react, and act to those feelings is the important thing. I wouldn't make a mountain out of it though.

Homegirl 50 · Mar 26, 2010, 06:52 AM

I'm just wondering what the point was in telling him that her boss is in love with her. There had to have been something come up for the topic about the boss to be discussed. Had I not know these two people are adults and 30+ I would have thought this was a teenage thing.

My thought is this is not a match. Too many insecurities and lack of communication.

Cat1864 · Mar 26, 2010, 08:05 AM

Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

I'm just wondering what the point was in telling him that her boss is in love with her. There had to have been something come up for the topic about the boss to be discussed. Had I not know these two people are adults and 30+ I would have thought this was a teenage thing.

My thought is this is not a match. Too many insecurities and lack of communication.

I don't think it is a good match either. Both of them seem to lack basic relationship-based communication skills at the very least.

He doesn't say how he 'knows' that the boss is in 'love' with her. He alludes to them having a discussion about it and from there her reaction. She could have told him or he could have worked it out for himself. It could have been part of a discussion before they became a couple. Friends discussing their workplaces type conversation. They have been a 'couple' for not quite four months. They were friends for four months before that.

There is also the possibility that he has built up these issues in his own mind because of his own insecurities and past history. Part of every question is only getting the perspective of one side.