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bc472556 · Apr 22, 2009, 11:00 PM

So there is the boy and we have a lot of chemisty. We are both college students and I know he is likesme because he always just stares. He knows I'm down too but yet we haven't hooked up yet. Last week though after we went back to our separate places after a party he texted me asking if I was down to f**k. I was but I didn't want to walk to his dorm alone that late at night... they are far away. He said he would come to mine an would see me in a bit. However 15 minutes later he texted me saying he wasn't coming.. I figured it was because he couldn't find a guy to sign him into my dorm building that late. Now we only have a week and a half left of school. Should I text him and say it's the last week of school are we going to make this happen or what? I really want to hookup and have no clue how to do it. Please help

ISneezeFunny · Apr 22, 2009, 11:29 PM

Whatever happened to dating?

Well, with that said, if you are "down with it," then yeah, why not make the first move? It seems that he's already done so, but the logistics got in the way.

lighterrr · Apr 22, 2009, 11:48 PM

It seems to me like you already have a good idea of how to make "hooking up" happen. Just remember to use protection if you do follow through with your plan.

liz28 · Apr 23, 2009, 12:36 AM

Judging from your other thread you seem to be really into him. https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/dating...me-344993.html I wonder if you think "hooking up" with him will make you want to be you?

This guy could have been saying this as a joke or to see what you was going say. I think it is odd that he text you this "do you want to fu¢k" message after a party that he most likely was drinking at. However, the two of you are adults but I hope don't want to do this for all the wrong reasons.

Xrayman · Apr 23, 2009, 04:23 PM

Sorry, but the whole situation seems infantile and about 10 on the creep-o-meter... I think that there is a lack of responsibility between the two of you, as ISF said, whatever happened to dating? This seems like the type of situation swingers would find themselves in.

1. use protection.
2. this could turn ugly-as in a rape situation, or worse.
3. The alarm bells are ringing as to when you will end up with an STD-with this highly risky behaviour!

Be real careful.

I feel that you should not "hook up", I sense that you need to ease into a relationship with this guy, he seems way too forward for safety.

Is anyone in the know where you are going/where he is from, to help, should you get into some problem?

Watch out..

Cheers.

bc472556 · Apr 23, 2009, 10:37 PM

I think everyone is very misunderstood, he isn't a stranger.

Synnen · Apr 24, 2009, 04:57 AM

Originally Posted by bc472556

I think everyone is very misunderstood, he isn't a stranger.

No... I think everyone understands just fine.

We just all think that having a one-night stand is idiotic.

Why not ask him on a DATE, rather than ask him to have sex?

lighterrr · Apr 24, 2009, 05:06 AM

Originally Posted by bc472556

I think everyone is very misunderstood, he isn't a stranger.

The way I see it is that you are both young and if you want to "hook up" I don't see any harm with it as long as both of you are clear on your expectations of "hooking up". Just be safe and use protection when/if you "hook up":)

bc472556 · Apr 24, 2009, 10:44 AM

Thank you. It's not like I'm looking for a one night stand. I am very into this guy, but lets be realistic the time we have left together and the situation makes sex an easy cop out. We have huing out and gone to parties together so if we took this to the next step I would hardley call it a one night stand. And if a one night stand was what I was looking for I would have gone and seen him that night, I just think we are ready to take the next step and I'm not sure how to go about that,

Sundance2007 · Apr 25, 2009, 04:00 AM

Be BRAVE. Ask him without fear of Rejection. If he says NO, it may mean he is GAY, unless you are Bad looking.

liz28 · Apr 25, 2009, 09:31 AM

Originally Posted by Sundance2007

Be BRAVE. Ask him without fear of Rejection. If he says NO, it may mean he is GAY, unless you are Bad looking.

Why does he has to be gay and she has to be ungly if he turns her down? Get real!

If this is the case, this must be the reason behind your roommate not wanting to have sex with you.

shazamataz · Apr 25, 2009, 09:36 AM

Originally Posted by liz28

If this is the case, this must be the reason behind your roommate not wanting to have sex with you.

Couldn't give you a greenie liz but good call!! :D

pathisfer · Apr 25, 2009, 09:46 AM

If you are really into this guy, I don't think hooking up with him under these circumstances is a good idea. It's pretty obvious, at this point, he only views you as a one night stand, not relationship material or he'd be asking you out and wanting to get to know you as a person!
The other thing is that he knows you are receptive yet he's not doing anything about it. He's not putting forth any effort to take you out (texting at night for a booty call doesn't count!) so I think you may be setting yourself up here if you want more than just a one nighter.
You can always call him up and see if he wants to go on a real date. So far, it seems like all your hanging out is having to do with partying and drinking?
The next step if you want a FWB situation would be to have sex with him but if you want a relationship, you guys need to start dating (him taking you to dinner, etc.). If he isn't willing to do that stuff, I think you may have misinterpreted his interest in you as more than it actually is.

Krazi · Apr 25, 2009, 09:57 AM

Originally Posted by bc472556

So there is the boy and we have a lot of chemisty. We are both college students and I know he is likesme because he always just stares. He knows im down too but yet we havent hooked up yet. Last week tho after we went back to our separate places after a party he texted me asking if i was down to f**k. I was but I didnt want to walk to his dorm alone that late at night...they are far away. He said he would come to mine an would see me in a bit. However 15 minutes later he texted me saying he wasnt coming.. i figured it was because he couldnt find a guy to sign him into my dorm building that late. Now we only have a week and a half left of school. Should i text him and say its the last week of school are we gunna make this happen or what? I really want to hookup and have no clue how to do it. please help

If you do like him then you need to sit and chat with him. If you two are on the same page
And intrested in each other then take the next step. Date, hook up or whatever its being called these days.

Lol

bc472556 · Apr 26, 2009, 10:45 PM

Thanks everyone for the feedback and I actually have good news! We are both from NY and both go to school in PA so we kind of bond by that. All of our serious conversations are about home and how even though we are from way diff. parts of New York it still bonds us. Anyway Friday night I went away and didn't even think about him but Saturday night he texted me! He said he had some friends up from home and he wanted them to have a good weekend and hang out withsome cool and he was like so I figured id hit you up I mean you are from NY and that alone makes you cool. So we met up at a party at the party there were a lot of people but we still managed to have a few conversations but as we were walking back from the party as I proceeded to go towards my block with my friends he called us back and was like oh you girls don't want to hang out anymore, come back to my house were all still chillen. So me and my girlfriend went back to his house and we all just hung out there was 3 of them and 2 of us and no matter what he was talking about he seemed to be telling only me. Even to the point where one of his friends was like "can I hear the story too" He was very flirty and even teasing me a little about being from "fake ny" I told him all about my little one night get away on Friday and he proceeded to tell me all about the one time he went to the place Ihad gone. I can tell he didn't want me to leave when I did But I was glad I did. I just don't know what to do cause now there are only 2 weeks left. Suggestions?

lighterrr · Apr 26, 2009, 10:52 PM

Seems you are now confused, if your having seconds thoughts then I think you should leave well enough alone and since your both from NY maybe you can see each other once school is done. No need to rush into "hooking up with a guy" If your not sure, you may have regrets if you go ahead with it right away. Besides if you don't hook up there are so any more guys out their " to hook up with". Take your time and always use protection.

bc472556 · Apr 26, 2009, 10:55 PM

Its not that I need to hook up with. I just like him a lot and I don't want the summer to come and him to totally forget everything we have worked a year to get too. He's a shy boy and is very worried about what girls think of him. He likes to party and get ed up and that's when he gets confident and I know he doesn't hook up with a lot of girls so If we do I know it will be serious. I just by the way he stares at me. It just feels so right and I want to do everything in my power to not let it die with the school year.