[Donnowhattodo]

I am aware that I have to forget her Amicon, I am searching HOW by coming here. Not to hear that I have to forget her, I know that..

[amicon]

I don't think anyone can tell you h o w ,apart from the things you are alrady doing-there's no magic wand-the way I see it is we all have to make a decision to move on and not allow ourselves to stay stuck in the past.

That's your choice to make,for yourself.

[talaniman]

Whether you have earnestly started to build a life that you enjoy is debatable, but it seems like something has triggered old memories, and feelings in you about the past. That does happen, but wallowing in self pity is never the answer. Sure you feel bad now, but you obviously don't know how to cope with your own feelings very well yet.

That's the key of life, dealing with yourself, and knowing yourself well enough to know what to do for yourself. That you still obsess on a female, who you wanted badly, even though she was taken by another, you still live with that failure, and rejection, and even now are disappointed you have not found another to replace her.

Get over yourself fella, and focus on the task at hand, so you can move forward to better things. Once you let go, and accomplish your goals, and see the world as having options and opportunities to be happy, you will make better situations and happy memories for yourself.

I can't believe you have not done so in a year, but at least we know what the problem is now. You are looking for love, instead of looking for joy, and happiness. Stop looking for love, and allow yourself to enjoy what you are doing, so you can stop comparing all the females you meet to someone you had an unhealthy, failed relationship with.

When you can open yourself up and have an open mind and heart, you will see things differently, and actually be happy with YOURSELF. Now get off the pity pot, and stop sulking, and do better for yourself. Only a fool thinks that there is only one female for him, when there are billions of options, and opportunities. To many to be stuck on someone who wasn't as stuck on you.

Just like you work hard to make your body strong and healthy, so must you do the same with your mind, and soul, and that's taking responsibility for your own happiness, without someone else to give you a stamp of approval. Love yourself, and be happy with who you are and what your doing, and someone will want to share that with you.

Stop complaining about the flaws of others, and see yours, and work on them.