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vanheart · Nov 16, 2009, 02:12 PM

Not at all, no reason to be sorry.

Yes, things should never be one-sided.

longdistance78 · Nov 16, 2009, 02:52 PM

Lots of stuff to think about right now and, yes, working on research papers and acting like the sane instructor in front of my students is painful. They probably have no idea that I am hanging on to whatever is left of my sanity.

With him, I'm continuing NC as usual and I will update on whatever happens in the future, if anything does come up, that is.

Again, thanks for the advice. I will update.

vanheart · Nov 16, 2009, 02:54 PM

Cool, stick with it.
Good luck.

Van

longdistance78 · Nov 18, 2009, 04:10 PM

I'm confused. I heard from him and he has asked me to see him when I arrive at the airport, but doesn't want to see me over the winter break. Not really surprising since he wants space, but why does he want to see me at the airport? Originally, I had asked him to come and pick me up at the airport this winter before the NC occurred. Now, it's a different story, yet he was willing to come pick me up as planned since I had no place to go and no transportation (it's a long story why I have no place to go that day). I did not reply because I'm keeping my promise that I would NEVER contact him for any reason.

He said he would come anyway, but didn't want to see me during winter break.
I felt he was playing games with me. Why come out to greet me at the airport if he had no intentions of even seeing me over the winter? Aren't we at a time-off stage right now? He probably felt bad for me, and I don't need his sympathy, especially from an idiot like him. I've pretty much moved on and look forward to meeting new people this winter.

I dread the day he comes to greet me at the airport, and I'm finding ways to avoid all physical contact (Should I just run away when I see him? Duck, hide? Act like I don't know him? I think that is what I will do). Just the thought of seeing him at the airport makes me want to strangle him in public for the pain he has caused me.

vanheart · Nov 18, 2009, 05:23 PM

Sounds weird.
Did you respond?

Honestly, I would avoid this like the plague. And seeing him would break your commitment to NC.

Sounds similar to what my ex tried. Pity, guilt, or had time to come up with more bs excuses, who knows.

Does he know what day & time?

longdistance78 · Nov 18, 2009, 06:12 PM

I did not reply.
Although I was tempted to reply, I just sat there biting my nails, fighting the attempt to type anything. So, I ended up typing up my paper instead and came here.

And yes, he already knows everything about my flight because I had told him prior to the NC rule.

I don't understand. If he wants NC, then why make the effort to come pick me up? I would understand if it was me who begged him to come out, since I'm the one in the vulnerable position... but why is he doing this?

Do you think it's guilt?

vanheart · Nov 18, 2009, 06:17 PM

I can't say.
The point is whatever reason doesn't really matter.

Change your flight if you can. And block his email.

longdistance78 · Nov 18, 2009, 06:21 PM

So,
How do you block emails? I've looked into that and can't seem to find exactly how via gmail.
I've deleted him but that doesn't seem to block him.

vanheart · Nov 18, 2009, 06:24 PM

Not sure either with gmail.
Check with them.

Someone else here may know the answer to that.

vanheart · Nov 18, 2009, 06:30 PM

Found this on gmails Q&A:

"Select any email that comes from the address u want to block in the inbox and click Report as Spam and voila all emails from that address will be Spammed/ trashed in future."

"The only way I found helpful for this was to apply a filter that forwards the email back to the address you are trying to block with a label you create that says "This address has been blocked" - hopefully the sender will get the message!"

longdistance78 · Nov 18, 2009, 06:36 PM

I see.
Thanks.

I will update if anything unexpected happens this winter.

vanheart · Nov 18, 2009, 06:37 PM

Cool.
Stay with it LD78...