[talaniman]

Yes unfortunately it does,because now your happy, but I'm sorry, but I think you see a hope of more, but are not admitting it. I may be wrong, but have little doubt, your "friend" has a different agenda, and motivation for her actions, that you don't know, and need to. Do you really think she is taking the opportunity to reconnect with a friend? I don't for a minute.

Come on guy, is jumping from guy to guy a good thing or a needy thing.

Looking back, obviously the main problem is that I always was far more into her than she into me. She was the most beautiful girl I had ever dated and I certainly let that beauty blind me and let her treat me like a doormat. Nobody can love a doormat.

TRUE!

We talked and e-mailed weekly-biweekly and still met occasionally after fallout #3 in late October.

So after being a doormat, a rejected one at that, your still there? That does not compute.

This all came to a crashing halt when I found out recently that not only is she dating someone who shares my same (rather uncommon) name, she is in an official "relationship" with this person!! The same person who wouldn't make any sort of commitment to me in 3 years is now comitted to someone else she'd known for a couple of months. I was devastated and decided immediately to cut off all contact-phone, Facebook, e-mail, etc.

Finally, reality has led led you to the path of dignity and self respect.

It's been 8 days but I still have pathetic feelings of longing for her and the friendship that is gone (my own choice for my own sanity). The worst thing is the ego blow though, essentially getting dumped 3 times by someone I was madly infatutated with and "replaced" by another in short time by someone who shares my own freaking name.

I would be mad as hell, too!

I'm really too old to be putting up with this drama. I'm perfectly fine with the idea of settling down but for some reason the thrill of chasing the beautiful girl that is just out of reach still haunts me.

I feel you there partner, but that's shock at being rejected and replaced and a need to heal.

For some reason it's hard to be attracted to perfectly nice girls that don't make my heart skip.

That will change after you have healed and are ready to regroup and rebuild a life that you enjoy without her.

Am I doomed to a life of singledom?

As long as your giving her what she wants and not giving yourself what you need, YES!!

Do I need to readjust my standards?

What standards, your putting her before yourself, that's not a standard, that's a door mat.

What the hell is wrong with me?

Sorry to be harsh, but she sets the pace, calls the shots, and controls everything you do in regard to her, NOT HEALTHY ON YOUR PART.

You can never heal and move to a healthy happy place as long as this "friend" is in your life. NO WAY. Sorry again, but that's what I see.

[talaniman]

Check this out.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...fe-364028.html

[BrentNumber1]

Lol, thanks for slapping me with a good dose of reality. I definitely needed it. NC was working fine for me so why mess up a good thing and bring back unnecessary drama into my life right?

[talaniman]

By George I think you got it!

[friend4u178]

By George I think you got it!

Had to spread it Tal but...

DITTO!!